Backstory: My younger brother”Steve” and sister-in-law “Ann” have two kids, f7. & m5. Ann is a stay at home mom and Steve works at a power plant. Our mom “Janet” has always been busy(working 1-2 jobs at any given time during our childhood because our dad was disabled and here recently, her mother recently passed away who Janet had moved in with to take care of). In other words, she has been around but often busy.
Now that Janet no longer has her mom to take care of, she wants to see the kids more often.
When she’s asks to possibly visit in the evenings after work, Ann seems to brush her off, mainly with the excuse of “the kids have a strict sleep schedule”. However, they are frequently taking the kids to spend with time at their cousins(Ann’s family), sleep overs, and trips out of town to see Ann’s family. Also, she brings the kids to see her mom every day.
(My brother and I aren’t that close with our side of the family so I get it.)
I’ve spoke to my brother about it and he always dodges an answer. Which makes me think that our mom is a sore subject between him and Ann. However, he hasn’t seem to be no-contact with Janet at the moment, at least not to my knowledge. He calls her daily, joking, sharing memes, etc. They seem to have a solid relationship.
While I’m trying not to get any more in the middle than I already am, what do I do? Do I side with our mom about their picking and choosing who gets what time with the kids? Is it truly any of my business? Thoughts?