u/Independent-Ant7362

Guys a serious question

I wanted some honest opinions on this because it’s been on my mind a lot lately.

Let’s say you’re someone who has been a virgin your whole life, and the person you deeply love is not a virgin. You genuinely want to marry them, but sometimes the difference in experience gets into your head emotionally.

What makes it harder is that she frequently talks about her past relationship , how her ex didn’t give her hope for marriage, but his parents and family still knew about her, they were close, and they were physically intimate too.

Sometimes I end up wondering: if there wasn’t much certainty in that relationship, how was there still so much trust and emotional/physical closeness? And then my mind starts comparing things and overthinking everything.

I’m not judging her for having a past, and I truly care about her and see a future with her. But I’m trying to understand how to deal with the insecurity, comparisons, and confusion in a mature way without hurting the relationship.

Has anyone else been in a similar situation? How did you handle it emotionally?

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u/Independent-Ant7362 — 10 days ago