TW: potential ED
Long time lurker here, this subreddit’s honestly a gem for me, I really love how warm this community feels
I’ve been reading a lot on this subreddit because I really want to be a better boyfriend. I love my girlfriend so much, and I try to be attentive…buying flowers couple times a week, playing games together, spending quality time (I’m watching Game of Thrones with her for the first time because it’s her favorite fantasy world and holy shit that world is amazing.. she has impeccable taste.. but that’s to be expected from such perfect fairy :).
She always says she loves me, just two days ago, she thanked me for being her boyfriend in a really sweet way and kissed me. But lately, she’s been really unhappy. She has a tough family background, no dad in the picture , a brother who’s treated her badly, and a recent fallout with her mom. On top of that, she’s been throwing up her food after eating when I’m not around. I tried talking to her about it and even suggested therapy, but she refuses. In the last two or three weeks, she’s been constantly looking in the mirror, feeling like she’s gained weight, and thinking she doesn’t look as good. I love her so much, she’s literally the most beautiful sexiest being to grace my eyes, and I keep telling her that… i just don’t know how to convince her. Last week at a party, she was a bit drunk, but she was telling other girls how great a boyfriend I am, and that made me feel hopeful, but still, I’m so scared that I’m failing her and that I’m one of the reasons she’s unhappy.
She once told me that in a previous relationship she had fallen out of love with someone but still stayed with him for months after…
I know strangers can’t give me a perfect answer, but any advice from others who’ve been through something similar would really mean a lot. I’m just trying to make sense of all this
I would do anything I could to make her feel better
Chicken supreme pizza and coke with my goddaughter