I went on a date with this girl where I stayed over at hers, we went out for breakfast and lunch the next day, etc etc. We got on super well and when we were out and about we basically acted like a couple. We also organise our second date for the end of the week. Then she tells me she’s going out on a date with this other guy on Wednesday. Now this surprised me a bit because our connection was so good, but I understand you can’t just be exclusive after the first date. She says she’s not actively searching for anyone else now, and that they planned the date before we actually went on ours. She says she still wants to see the other guy and find out if there’s a connection there before deciding if she sees him for a second date.
Now here’s the thing. Why should I compete for someone’s attention when I know there are thousands of girls near me who I wouldn’t have to compete for? Now I’ve got 3 options:
a) Suck it up, wait till after their date, if she’s seeing him a 2nd time then suck it up again and hope to God I come out ahead at the end of all this,
b) Suck it up, wait till after their date, if she’s seeing him a 2nd time then politely let her know I’ll be moving on,
c) Politely let her know I’ll be moving on right now
Once again I understand that she completely has the right to see whoever she wants because we’re not exclusive, and I wouldn’t even dare ask her to cancel on this guy, but I also feel like a cuck sitting at home waiting for her to tell me how her date went. If I didn’t know about it and she told me afterwards that it was a fail, then I wouldn’t give a shit. Similarly, if we had a normal first date that didn’t involve sleeping together, cuddling, holding hands acting like a couple etc, then I also wouldn’t give a shit. But that’s not the case, and now that I know exactly when and where and with whom this date is, I’m literally subjecting myself to the torture of picturing them out together as it’s literally happening.
Edit: I’d like to add that I’m completely aware that in the past I’ve definitely put plenty of girls in the position that I’m in now, yet now I’m complaining that the shoe’s on the other foot. I just think it’s shitty I’ve actually got to sit through their date with the knowledge it’s happening as we speak.
Edit 2: It’s not even that convenient for us if we started dating. She goes to a different uni and she lives ages away from me. She also told me she cheated on one of her exes 2 years ago so I really don’t have much of a reason to keep seeing her.