u/Independent-Ice9709

First time poster here, really just need some more opinions on this situation. Me and my boyfriend have been dating since mid January. He is my first real boyfriend, and at first things seemed really great. We started dating because we had mutual friends that were dating at the time who set us up together, but I did have a crush on him before that point. Me and him have a lot in common and we have the exact same sense of humor, but lately Im not sure if i want to be in the relationship anymore.

For context, he told me that he loved me maybe 3 weeks after we started dating. I felt that it was way too early at the time, but I wasn’t sure how to tell him so I just said it back. I feel like things moved way too fast in the beginning of our relationship, mainly on his end. He was very nice to me when we first started dating and bought me flowers like 4 times. However, I have noticed a dramatic shift in his behavior. Anytime I want to do something that he doesn’t he immediately shuts down and quits talking to me altogether. One time we were playing pickleball with my friends and he literally wouldn’t speak or even smile the whole time. He just looked so angry and was literally acting like a baby eve though I told him he didn’t have to come.

Also right after we started dating he said that the only reason he wanted to go to the college he chose is because I am going to school in the same town, and if we weren’t dating he would just go to the school in our home town. Not that this is necessarily a bad thing, but it was so early that I felt like he was basing his whole college decision around me when things might not even work out. I’m not sure if this is a love bombing situation, but he does say some things that feel like he’s trying to make sure I want to be with him. Not exaggerating, at least twice every-time we hang out he will ask me “Do you really like me?” or “Are you going to break up with me?” and it is just so tiring and honestly makes me want to even more because he’s so insecure.

At the same time, I worry that if I stay with him during college he is going to be very controlling. He has made it clear that he doesn’t want me to join a sorority because he doesn’t want me to be at parties with “other drunk guys” without him. When I told him that partying isn’t all sororities are for he just argued with me and said that’s literally the whole point of them. I told him that I just wanted to make more friends when I go to college, and he said, “You don’t have to be a slut to make friends.” He acted like he was joking after but that really made me feel terrible. This is worse because I feel like he has slut shamed me at other points in our relationship as well. One time he texted me out of nowhere asking if i had sex with a guy I used to talk to. I obviously said no because I hadn’t, and he wouldn’t answer me when I wanted more context as to why he asked. It turned out he was with one of his friends talking about “stuff I used to do” at parties. He just felt very dismissive and judgmental through the whole ordeal and it made me very upset.

I know probably no one is going to read this whole post but I kinda just wanted to vent and am not sure how to go about things moving forward. Any advice?