Boyfriend help
Hey, so I 21F have a boyfriend 18M. This is my first serious relationship.
I’m having issues for several reasons: He keeps judging my clothing choices, specifically a certain style of trousers that are flared on the bottom and I find comfortable. According to him they make me look old and he compares me to his nan who had them before she died. Every single time I wear these trousers I love so much he comments on them. I see no issue with them? They don’t look old to me and I don’t see why a nan would be wearing them. Also he said to me today “you’re 21 years old, you need to start being more 21 and less 90”
Second: Okay so he has an ex who was his first girlfriend and basically he was texting her behind my back trying to get back with her whilst we were together. Now there’s a pattern of him messaging random girls flirty messages and then when I confront him about he, he claims “I didn’t know that was flirting.” To be clear one of the messages he sent to one of these girls was asking for an explicit video.
What the hell do I do. I constantly feel like I’m being lied to and judged and just not wanted I guess?
Im wondering if I’m clinging to this relationship because of past issues with wanting to feel loved etc.
But if he’s not making me feel loved then why am I still here? He does make me feel loved sometimes but sometimes I feel so beneath him.
Any thoughts would be really appreciated.