Considering having my gay friend as a donor
I’m an asexual woman and not interested in dating or getting married, but I’ve always wanted to have a child.
My best friend happens to be a gay man and I think he has great genes. He’s smart, kind-hearted, good-looking, etc. If I get a sperm donation, I’d rather get it from him than an unknown person who might’ve donated who knows how many times.
I once lightly pitched the idea of getting a sperm donation from him and he was actually very happy about it. In the past, he mentioned that he will probably never have kids in his life because he’s gay and thus it’s not “natural” for him to reproduce. He doesn’t want to have a baby through surrogacy. But it seemed like he loved the idea of becoming a donor for my baby.
If this happens, he will probably be present in my child’s life to a certain extent because I will keep my friendship with him and let my child know that he is their biological father.
The thing is, he has a partner and they might get married. I’m not sure how his partner would feel about him having a biological child with someone else, and moreover, how my child would feel about their biological father not being with me but with his own partner.
What are your thoughts? If we do this, what would be the best way to help my child process this?