u/IndependentFair9727

I am a 55 yo married male who has not had sex in almost 9 yrs, wife hit menapause and she literally chose not to engage. I have tried everything from counseling, to just talk about it all, but she is just happy the way it is and doesn't feel like she should have to engage at all. It kills a lot, being romantic and everything... A divorced Mom in my area went through something the same way but that her husband cheated 6-8 yrs ago and the marriage has been over so we txt and talk about how we feel.

I know it's wrong but I just want to take this person to a hotel and spend the night loving again...She flirts with me and I with her.... But the boyscout in me says you do and you are just as bad as her x.... What do I do?