r/Flirting

I (F19), work with (M27). I used to be a student and I now work as a TA (he has been a TA for a few years). He texts me frequently, especially after we’ve interacted to strike up conversation or thank me. Im leaving my job so we had a farewell dinner with my team.

He implied that we should keep in touch and get coffee together, and then sent me a long text after I got home. It was about how much he admires my perspective on life, and how I inspire him to be a better person. He also described the way I made him feel when we first met around three years ago?

“when we first met, you just had (and still have) a really warm and open presence. And to me, it's really unique because I don't have very many people in my life with that same quality of energy. And it's attractive in the sense that it's so easy to speak with you, and I feel very compelled to connect with you.”

I’m not really sure how to process this text because it could be platonic but he’s also a very intentional speaker. What way would you interpret this interaction, and is it potentially flirty?

question for guys: would you speak this way to a girl and consider it platonic?

I’d love a guy’s perspective on this.

I have a coworker, and over the past few months we’ve developed a very playful and flirty dynamic.

He comes to my office several times a day, teases me constantly, and always seems to find a reason to stop by and talk. We make a lot of eye contact, and there are times when we lock eyes for several seconds. I’ve also caught him staring at me a lot—sometimes so intensely that I jokingly cover my hands or look away to break the moment.

I’m usually the one who initiates physical contact. I’ll touch his arm, neck, and beard, pinch his stomach, tug on his shirt, or playfully grab his waistband. He never pulls away and usually just laughs. He also shares music with me, and seems to genuinely enjoy spending time with me.

The confusing part is that he has a partner and children.

From a guy’s perspective, does this sound like genuine attraction, or is he just enjoying the attention and flirting for fun?

He works in the liquor store next door and I need an excuse to go in and talk to him. I first spoke yo him and asked if he had a lighter and we got talking. Yesterday I talked to him and I gave him the garbage key and today he gave it back to me and we talked then too. But I need another excuse to go and talk to himmmm what do I sayyyy

So... I was working bag check at a convention.

This guy came up, someone I would consider conventionally attractive, and complimented my beard. He kept hanging around, talking to me, and kept offering to help. He seemed pretty nice. After about two hours, he asked if I'd like to go get drinks after my shift ended. I told him I couldn't, and after a few minutes of being quiet, he awkwardly said he had to go and walked away.

It wasn't until I was on my way home that I thought, "Wait, was that guy flirting with me? Did he try to ask me out?"

I've never had someone flirt with me before. I'm both unattractive and asexual. I have absolutely zero social awareness. My partner seems to think he was flirting with me. I don't know, though?

Did I shoot him down? I didn't mean to. I have no experience with this. I'm nerdy and chunky, and I'm aware that I'm not attractive. Is my partner right? I'm so confused.

Hello all, about every other week to once a month she will send me a text “Thinking of you ❤️❤️”. Her and I have been great friends since college and she has been married for roughly 5 years. I am M 38 and she is F 36. Any idea what the text means and possibly why she sends it?

So I a [M33] and my best friend [F37] have been doing out on dates for the past few months, to me it seems like she only wants to stay as friends but sometimes she’ll say some random things like she’s glad she doesn’t have to get jealous of me hitting on coworkers (i work with all guys minus the owners wife) and that I make her happy or she would give someone like me a chance but when I ask if she this going anywhere and she says probably. So im coming to Reddit for advice. Do I pursue it or not?

NOTE: ive been told that i am absolutely oblivious to the signals sent by guys, i am not rrly much of a looker, i have very less romantic knowledge so pls help

Ok some context- we knew each other in school from 2023-25.... We dint talk after that till this May, so we chat about this that- we talked on call and so, the thing that puts me off is that he started complimenting me out of nowhere, he told me that this mole on my face stole the show on my ig posts and he told that my voice changed a lot and sounds more mature (I think it's cause we haven't spoken in so long) and he keeps calling me woman this and that. Is he flirting or am I delusional. Two more things, I'm in an whole another continent now and in 2023 one guy asked me out through him and I kinda rejected a bit harshly. I think he is funny but I don't wanna be lead on- so what do y'all have to say about this? ​​​

What are some creative and fun ways as a guy to go from breaking the touch barrier to a first kiss with a girl? Obviously, this is only once you know the connection is there and interest is mutual.

I am a 55 yo married male who has not had sex in almost 9 yrs, wife hit menapause and she literally chose not to engage. I have tried everything from counseling, to just talk about it all, but she is just happy the way it is and doesn't feel like she should have to engage at all. It kills a lot, being romantic and everything... A divorced Mom in my area went through something the same way but that her husband cheated 6-8 yrs ago and the marriage has been over so we txt and talk about how we feel.

I know it's wrong but I just want to take this person to a hotel and spend the night loving again...She flirts with me and I with her.... But the boyscout in me says you do and you are just as bad as her x.... What do I do?

So i enjoy the act of flirting. Complimenting, make the person feel nice, happy, appreciated. But Im not really looking for it to go any further. Than just flirting, maybe get a little spicy and stuff. Is this a red flag on my end. I do let people know beforehand im not looking.

I’m F(19), I only have 2 experience kissing and I don’t think I’ve found someone who knows how to kiss — i don’t even know if im doing it properly LMAO. So.. what are the signs of someone being a bad or a good kisser? Cuz i have a lot of GENUINE questions, ok.

Is it normal for their saliva to be all over my mouth to my nose?
Are we supposed to feel each other’s teeth?
Is it normal for someone to be sucking both upper and lower lip? 😭

Is this the right place to ask…

I’m in 10th grade and have two classes with this girl, I sometimes look over across the room at her and see she’s looking at me but we both look away (or at least I do) quickly but subtly. And when I am looking at her and she turns to me I look away but notice she’s still looking for a second longer. I know most of her friends from the school i went to before and the ones I don’t know that she’s hangs out with recently started looking at me more and saying hi in the halls or if we’re in the same area. Also at lunch I go outside away from the school to smoke and such but I noticed she’s been recently going there more and more, not that it is unusual bc quite a few people go there but she never really did, until I started to think she liked me. In one of our classes together she sits right in front of me, and almost everyday she asks me to borrow a pencil, not her friend beside her that always has one and not anyone else she sits near and that she knows better.
I like to think I can pickup on subtle gestures and hints but I’m clueless here and she’s so perfect and I’m just the lame-o smoker that is pretty introverted and doesn’t talk to girls. ANY ADVICE OR HELP WORK!

Hey, yall. 19M here. Apparently, either 1. I have no idea how flirting looks. Or 2. My mother is terrible at telling signs. Maybe both. I've had multiple times in my life where someone was apparently flirting, and my mother has made fun of me for it every single time. Once at an Applebees during Mothers Day a year ago, we were sitting down eating. The server walks by and goes, "Happy Mothers Day. Hope your son got you something " to which my mother pointed at me and said ,"That's my son. " She looked me up and down and said ,"You did good, " and continued walking. I gave her a thumbs up and a small smile. My mother then proceeded to make fun of me the entire way home because I had no idea she was apparently flirting. Probably just the server trying to get a few extra bucks of a tip, but I thought of it today, and it made me cringe. So i believe everyone else deserves to hear it as well

I’m (M21) wondering if you could give me some advice because to be honest I just do not know how to flirt. I’ve been trying to understand how to and seems like I can’t no matter what I do or try

I’ve heard people say that stuff like innuendo, complements, being interested in all sorts of stuff like that is flirting and especially that innuendo and complements apparently build tension that to be honest. I’ve also heard people say the other side that it doesn’t.

So I have this coworker who I have realized I’m kind of head over heels crushing on. We have similar interests and outlooks on life, can chat about anything or work quietly next to each other. I suggested we get together sometime to do one of our shared hobbies and she agreed and was really excited about it. When I initially suggested this I was trying to be friendly (she seemed cool and is new to the city) but I never reached out to make a plan and haven’t brought it up since.

This is partly because I realized I have a crush on her and because I’m her supervisor. I don’t know exactly how old she is but I’m pretty sure she’s my age or older. But… I’m still her supervisor, and I’m worried about any kind of power dynamics that might be at play if I were to pursue her. I have no idea if she thinks of me like that, but I’m pretty sure she’s likes me as a person at least lol.

Anyway I’m not sure what to do about it or if I should even do anything. Am I better off hoping one of us leaves our job (service industry so it could happen) or is there any chance this could work out ok??