Hola (22 Mujer); hace unos meses entré a un gimnasio que queda cerca de mi casa y noté que había un chavo que me atrajo físicamente (lentes, barba, alto y con músculos marcados) hasta hace unas semanas comenzamos a saludarnos y despedirnos con una sonrisa que desde mi perspectiva parecía genuina, la verdad casi siempre coincidimos en los horarios y eso me ha facilitado las cosas ya que hace unos días me sacó platica mientras estábamos en la caminadora pero me puse muy nerviosa y le dije que iba a ver una serie JAJAJA
Luego al día siguiente nuevamente me saco platica mientras estábamos en la caminadora pero esta vez traté de seguirle la conversación a pesar de ser una persona muy tímida.
Anteriormente ya habíamos tenido algunas interacciones breves pero ninguna platica y por lo que él ha mencionado se graduó de la universidad en pandemia así que calculo que tiene entre 27 y 30 años (la verdad no tengo problema con eso) pero el asunto es que quiero tener relaciones con él pero no se si el quiera o si tenga algún compromiso de noviazgo o esposa, también no se si se sienta bien con mi edad ya que si son algunos años de diferencia y quería pedir consejos de como insinuar las cosas para terminar en dicha situación.
Aclaro que si tiene novia o alguna relación simplemente me alejaría y listo.
Solo quiero saber experiencias de personas que han logrado acostarse con su gym crush.

He's 29, I'm 25. We've known each other for the past 15 years but we don't really hang out that way. Until this one trip. I went on a trip with all of my cousins and in Mexico and he was invited to. There is at the pool where I was telling all my cousins about how my older brother, who they all know and love too, about how he got supercharged one night. He was supposed to be my designated driver but I was less messed up than him so I had to be the designated driver. My friend says "call me anytime I'll be your designated driver whenever. No issue."

I have no problem to approach the girl and during the conversation I like to both talk and listen. I have lots of cool stories and love to tell them, but I noticed that most of the time I just talk to much and girls lose interest in conversation. I genuinely interested in new people and always ask them about what they re doing their points of view etc sort of comparing to my experiences, but it mostly just seems like a turn off to girls. What starts as a positive flirty thing goes down to hell(

How do you escalate the verbal conversation exactly? I understand the thing with graduate or light touches, have no problem with that, more like about the verbal thing.

I’m a dude in my late 20s and I currently work at a gym as my temporary job. I was working out today at the gym on my off day and this girl who looks like she’s in her early 20s started working out right in front of me (like 6 feet away).

She was wearing fairly revealing gym clothing and kept bending over right in front of me. Then turned around and sat on a near bench and bent over, dangling her breasts right in my line of sight and I really think it was on purpose.

She then started using the cable machine right next to mine, even though there were many other open cable spots in the room. I kept trying to make eye contact, to start a conversation but she wouldn’t look at me. I didn’t know what to say but I stayed in the same spot for almost 2 hours and she stayed in my proximity the entire time. (4-6 feet)

When I left, I noticed she followed me out the door about (30 seconds behind me). Granted that I work at that gym, I’ll most likely see her in the near future. What should I say to her when I see her next? Also, what would have been a good way to start a conversation in that moment?

A certain woman has been increasingly aggressive in trying to get my attention. I thought just not being responsive would be enough but she is relentless.

What does it mean when a woman makes eye contact with u and does these things, looks away and starts fanning herself with hand, looks away and starts touching her body, abs, waist, booty, suddenly starts training in front of u?

I notice this more oftenly with women but I am maybe just overthinking a lot.

I (32f) ran into a man at a charity event and hit it off. I went to the bar to pay my tab and they were taking forever. So I struck up a conversation with the man next to me (he was introduced to me earlier by the lead host). He was sitting alone eating drinking a manhattan. I end up pulling up a seat and we started talking career, life, art, music, we shared each other’s drink and both leaned in. I mean I have never met someone so intelligent, gentle, masculine. Just wow. He said if I was getting another drink? I said I was going to close my tab. He told me “you should get another drink.” And smiled at me. So I did and closed my tab. He is an attorney and he told me he liked how I challenged his views. He told me I should be an attorney how good at sales (my job) I must be how fun I am. He asked me what I liked to do to relax and after two drinks I said “I don’t know how to relax I have a feeling of always needing to be productive or I am guilty.” He leaned in and said in this deep voice “do you feel guilty right now?” I meeped out “no I don’t” he said “good. You shouldn’t” with this masculine tone. I about fainted!!!! He kept touching my arm and me his shoulder and we were so taken by eachother we left everyone around us and all I could see was him. He bought me another drink and we flirted a little more. My friends tried to get my attention but I couldn’t see them. We talked about age and he is 50 years old!! I was blown away I thought he was at max 40. I said NO WAY YOU DO NOT LOOK 50. Our faces were so red. We both were shocked to learn we live in the same area as each other. He said we can pretend we are the same age. My friend came up and tried to talk to him and she said he respectfully gave her the cold shoulder. He was so locked into me she said. We exchanged business cards and before he left he pulled mine out and asked if it was my office number? And I said no it’s my cell you should text me. He hugged me and said over text I was really fun. He texts me every 4 days or so just checking in. I can’t stop thinking about him.

So then!!!!!!! I haven’t heard from him in a few days and I needed to run to CVS to get embarrassing things because I was sick af with stomach issues. I ridiculously said “I’m going to put on a dress just in case I run into him” because I’m delusional. I walked into CVS trying not to vomit and GUESS WHO I RAN INTO. HIM. Ran straight into each other and I was like hey?! And he’s like HEY???!!! GOD HE LOOKED SO GOOD AND RELAXED and he walked up to me he was so much hotter and taller than I realized and I was so shocked. He stood over me and I FLIPPING KNOCKED OVER A SIGN AND PILL BOTTLES and he grinned as I RAPIDLY PICKED THEM UP NERVOUS LAUGHING and he goes “there’s something right there” with this sexy smirk. And I was like OH HAAHHAAH HOW ARE YOU?!?!?! (As I wish I had the ability to spontaneously COMBUST) and we talked a bit about the gym and work and he said “are you coming to the networking thing Thursday?” I said what thing? He told me “yeah it’s at so and so I’m going to be there you should come!” And I said okay!!! He goes “I feel a little caught red handed at CVS because I look….what do my kids say…chopped??” And I laughed and said same here and he said see you soon! Smiled and walked away.

CRASHINGGGGGGG OUTTTTT

AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH I NEED ADVICE HELP DOES HE EVEN LIKE ME DID I RUIN IT I FEEL 16 AGAIN. Idk how to even DO THISSSSS….(we are both divorced and I am childless he’s got kids)

for context: we are both seasonal workers (I’m 28F, he’s 32M.) so this job is going to end on a few months. I know it’s a bad idea to crush on your manager but regardless that’s what happened, and I wouldn’t be acting on this if it was a permanent position. I’m still trying to be careful and subtle

I’ve posted other situations and I think there has been some flirting between us. he’s often vented to me and told me some “insider” info. he said he feels more comfortable around me than the other coworkers. we work together often as well. but last week I was talking to him about something then I said “maybe I shouldn’t be talking about this with you, you’re my manager” but I was kinda joking. then today he was venting to me about something and he said how maybe he shouldn’t be talking about it because he’s my manager. so basically what I said but in reverse. I assured him that it was okay, I’ve told him before it’s okay if he vents or rambles to me. he had this really playful side that I’ve noticed and it’s so cute

but does this specifically sound flirty?

So I met this guy like a week ago and he was pretty cute. At some point he mentioned his birthday was coming up, so I told him happy birthday, and he was like “it’s next week.”
Well… it is now “next week.” But I have absolutely no idea what day his birthday actually is.
We kind of run in the same circles, so I don’t want to embarrass myself. Also (important context), I was pretty drunk when I met him… and also the next few days I saw him. And yes, I did attempt to flirt with him in a very questionable, drunk way. So my credibility is already… not amazing. I also need to mention i am 19 and he is around that age too.

Now I want to wish him a happy birthday, but I don’t know how to do it without sounding weird or particularly flirty.
I was thinking of saying something like:
“Heyy, I vaguely remember it was your birthday around now, so happy birthday”

But I don’t know if that sounds cute or just chaotic.
Any ideas on what I could say?

Little update:
The conversation was like.

Me: Heyy, I vaguely remember it was your birthday around now, so happy birthday.

Him: it was actually yesterday but thank you.

Me: oops, just a little late

Him: no problem🙃

Then I just hearted his last comment because i didn’t know what to say and i also didn’t want to annoy him in case he wasn’t interested.

A recent doctor's appointment has made me thinking (30F)

I had a doctor (older, probably in his 50s/60s) whose behavior stood out to me. A routine appointment ended up lasting much longer than expected. He was very warm, smiley, asked about my background and family, brought up things from my past medical history that weren't related to why I came in, and we joked around quite a bit.

Afterward, he sent me three detailed portal messages with health advice (my results were all normal). He also called me directly that evening to discuss my notes, and we ended up chatting and laughing for a while.

A week later, before my next appointment, he randomly called me again. When I didn't answer, he emailed saying he'd tried to reach me because he wanted some information before my visit in case he needed to order additional labs.

After that appointment, we joked some more and he gave me a fist bump. Then after I emailed asking whether I needed another test, he called me again instead of replying by email. We talked for about 10 minutes, and at one point he even said he had patients waiting but we kept chatting and he told me a little about his summer plans.

This was three phone calls within about a month, and in the end I didn't have any serious diagnosis.

I've never had a doctor communicate like this before. Is this just what some really caring doctors are like, or does this seem more personal than usual?

I try not to think this way because I’m only overthinking it but I got a little nervous that I was annoying my crush. admittedly I was being a little flirty with him. I asked him if he was gonna go out that night with me and some other ladies who were there because he knew how we were having a “girls night” but we thought it would’ve been fun if he came. and honestly he does seem like the type of guy who would love a girls night.

I asked if he was going and he seemed hesitant, I stepped a little closer to him a couple times (still not overly close at all, not close enough to touch him or anything which I wouldn’t have done anyhow) and was smiling a bunch at him, which he was as well. but as I stepped closer I said something like “c’monnn you wanna go to girls night” but he actually couldn’t come because he has work in the morning, but he did seem interested in going another time. also as I stepped closer to him he didn’t move and he was smiling pretty much the entire time as well, I just worry that I possibly made him uncomfortable but I don’t think he was really showing much discomfort.. also at another time he said he’s comfortable with me, he’s rambled and vented around me before and there’s been other lightly flirty stuff that has happened between us.

another thing that happened just before that interaction with him, one of the ladies I was going out that night with was there, and I didn’t know he was in the small building we were standing at. I told the lady how I have a crush on him and right after I said that he came out and we looked at each other. that’s when we all started talking. I don’t know if he heard me, lol. but just my luck I guess

Soooo I used to have social anxiety, worked like a year and a half to get over it, but don't know if that's lingering, or if I don't try to flirt with people because it's genuinely inappropriate, or my chances are low, or what. I wish I could clear my mind with this.

I want to find someone, but as a guy with too many work hours to even hang out with friends, I don't exactly have any opportunities to meet someone naturally. Though I feel weird for actually wanting to go in public and look around for the sake of finding someone?? :( I'm so confused.

I don't feel attraction to most people, only a small fraction of who I think looks best. So when I do find someone like that, which isn't every day or week, I wanna get their number. But aside from that mostly just happening at work (which I would keep professional and small talk / flirt after, when I did), often people are with their families. Twice yesterday. I don't know how to explain why I didn't talk to them, but I guess it just felt inappropriate, which idk why because I've been killing off social anxiety so like. It doesn't matter if I embarrass myself. But I still felt it would be deservably laughable to hit on someone with her family. I am more confused why I felt this way for the person who was just like with one parent, it seemed. But I couldn't tell and asking "Hey are you her parent?" in order to ask permission to ask the girl's number in front of them, just.. this all feels weird to me? I do wish for opportunities to make more natural small talk first, but aside from maybe 15 seconds of small talk, there's often not much more for me to say in the short span of time talking with a stranger.

But hearing stories of flirting makes me feel extremely left out and jealous, so for a few reasons I am pretty desperate these days.

Hey!

As the title says, been single for 6 months but bit of back story:

Was with my ex for 13 years, married for 10, and have 2 kids together.

I moved out end of January but we called it off early December. We agreed I would stay living there to make sure the kids had a good Christmas. The relationship had been dead for over a year and zero intimacy since mid 2024 so it was a clean and amicable split.

Anyway, I am feeling ready to start putting myself out there again but after a 13 year relationship, I have zero experience or confidence in my flirting skills.

So, anyone been in similar situations able to help a guy out?

Or any advice in general to get me started?

Flirting is often misconstrued as throwing witty and smooth lines at someone you are interested in, being playful and teasing and while that is important, people oftentimes ignore the dominant role of body language and posture as well.

Straight posture without slouching, open, relaxed and expansive body language, getting closer, strong eye contact, smirking, light touching and even gently touching yourself, animated gestures when speaking, mirroring their body language and expressions and talking slower and deeper are some powerful methods of indicating interest without saying a single word.

Flirting should best be undertood as a shield against rejection, attraction is mostly random, instant and immediate for most people (it can only be amplified if it already exists, it doesn't really grow over time, that's pretty much a myth), so flirting directly and overtly is a good way to gauge interest and immediately move on it there's no reciprocation.

Flirting doesn't build attraction, attraction can't be created, it just signifies on whether it exists in the first place, saving both people's time as a result.

Remember that your time is the most valuable asset, don't spend weeks trying to "get to know" someone who might not even be interested in you, so flirt right away and and move on if there is lack of interest and reciprocation.

i can maybe talk to a girl ( only online ) but offline nah i fumble alot i dont have kinda skills rn, and online too when i start talking to a girl i dont know what to say or how to flirt so girls friendzones me cuz they think am a loser or sum shi and thats bad i think how do i improve my game please help me🙏🏻

My boss (male in his 40ties, office environment, UK) used to send occasionally out of common messages such as

'didnt I tell you that you're special?',

'send me the sexy <work item>'

or situational jokes such as

'we are not in a threesome' etc

This was long.time ago and it got quite calm since. Also we haven't seen each other for a while.

We met recently in his office. When we were leaving from a team lunch alone, he grabbed my hand to see my engagement ring without any heads-up, which I found a bit awkward. He also asked 'when did it happen why didn't you tell me?'. He tends to be socially awkward so not trying to read too much into it.

He also invited me for a drink after office. The rest of the team was gone at this point. We went alone and the conversation was mostly personal but not too private, quite normal, I would say.

I messaged him on my way back home to thank for the drink, as he paid, and said :'it was good to see you' to which he responded 'gonna have to find a way to see eachother more'. Didn't think much of it as it sounded like a friendly reply. He also checked on me few hours later if I made it home okay. however, 2 days later, he announced him coming to my office in the very close future and offering lunch. He seems to have a reason to be coming here, however, he hasn't been here for at least a year so the timing feels weird.

Is he flirty or am I overthinking?

I have a crush on a guy and recently I was rambling around him a bunch. he said he didn’t mind and he wasn’t saying much because he was sick so he couldn’t do too much talking. I believe him of course but sometimes I worry that I come off as childish or pathetic, or that it’s obvious how I’m nervous. sometimes he rambles to me or he’ll vent, but I really like when he does that because I feel it shows he’s comfortable and has some trust in me.

he did say himself he talks to me a bit more than some others because he’s known me longer than them, and he’s more comfortable for that reason. there have been what I feel are some flirty interactions between us as well, but sometimes I’ve gotten so nervous and awkward around him that I struggle with knowing what to say

I met this girl on hinge a few days ago and we’ve been texting a lot. She’s very flirty and has been very forward with what she wants. She’s just got out of a long term relationship and tells me she doesn’t want to rush anything.
She keeps trying to get me to flirt back, but I haven’t. I’m too embarrassed and just cringe thinking about it. How can I flirt with her??