u/rainzephyr

I am 30F and I have never had a bf before. I don't get noticed by guys. If I go to a bar or a club, I am often ignored or not pursued. I don't ever get approached and guys never flirt with me when I go out. I've been to NYC, nothing. In my southern hometown, nothing. It hurts even more that I am well traveled. I have traveled and lived in Europe and again men there didn't like me either, and I was treated like an eyesore. The thing is that I am not out of shape but I feel like because I am woc with dark skin, men don't see me as beautiful so I am ignored or invisible or treated like I have a disability. And sometimes when I am with my friends, they get hit on or seen but again I am just background to men. I don't feel like I will ever find someone. I was hopeful in my 20s but now in my 30s I feel very doubtful I will find someone when guys don't even look at me.

Does anyone know of any good facial balancing doctors who work on woc or black women in London. I feel like there are so many options and I don't know who I should go to or see for facial balancing.

I never get flirted with and I travel a lot. Even in NYC, I barely even got flirted with and I heard many people say they got flirted with a lot in NYC but I was completely invisible there. Does this mean I am ugly? It’s getting me down, that no one notices me and it doesn’t help that I’ve never had a bf or been in a relationship before.

My whole life, I’ve felt unattractive. I’m 30 and never had a bf before, barely approached and never asked out and men rarely even look at me. Even when I go to bars or clubs I’m not the girl that men chase after/no romantic interest. For reference, I am a dark skinned black thin/petite girl.

I split my time between NYC and London. Are there any places in NYC or London where you can get honest, constructive feedback on your appearance or styling? I’m thinking along the lines of personal styling, makeup consultations, color analysis, or anything else that helped you look and feel your best?

I’m a black girl living in Europe and I never get approached by men, I feel so invisible here. Don’t know if guys here just don’t find me attractive or what’s going on. I have lived in Europe for five years not a single guy has shown romantic interest in me. I am open to dating outside of my race but I just don’t feel attractive in Europe or never had the opportunity.