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Not sure what sub this should go into, but I’d love to hear all perspectives: I got a sew-in a few weeks ago and the comments my stylist made has me feeling confused.

I typically do a shoulder length bob (sew-in that looks identical to what my hair would look like as a silk press). I got a sew-in longer than I usually do for an upcoming event and she says something along the lines of, “You got your big girl bundles” and “It took you ## years to finally add some length” etc. I just laughed it off.

I genuinely think I may be overacting/being too sensitive/overthinking her jokes. For context, she’s known me for several years where she can give me some tough love about my hair. But then the other part of me feels insecure where maybe she really believes that I’ve “upgraded” my look, and I’m not sure if I should take it as a (backhanded?) compliment.

Do they work for hyperpigmentation?any tips ? For body specifically

Has anyone ever dealt with feeling ugly even though they are attractive or still feeling ugly even after you’ve achieved your looksmaxxing goals. And for me it really isn’t that I feel hideous, I never feel like I’m pretty enough. Like yeah sure I’m pretty but it’s not enough if that makes any sense. Idk can anyone advice me in any kind of way

anyone have tips on developing personal style? i feel like im very wishy washy with my fashion sense and as i mature i really want to focus on curating style that feels authentically me - but i can’t seem to figure out “my thing”! one day i want to be a minimalist and the next day i want to be over the top. one day I’ll be into alternative looks and the next day I’ll decide i like vintage. one day I’ll decide i want to go be hyperfeminine and the next, im into streetwear. Its resulted in my wardrobe being all over the place as a result. i always envy people who know what their “thing” is visually, and stick to it faithfully. like people who dress according to different subcultures, eras, etc. I’m all for experimentation, but i want to have my own signature style i can always fall back on, but i have no idea how i can develop it

When I have a few drinks in me I'm friendly, free-spirited, warm. Complete
opposite of sober who's more standoffish, socially reserved, cold, and intense.
Despite how strong and unreadable my face and body language come off sometimes people still want to come up to me both sober and drunk.
I don't know if it's some type of halo effect
or I have a very trusting type of beauty,
“Like I have a pouty but innocent face”.
But my resting bitch face doesn't scare people off that much.
I don't know why when I get a few drinks in me my personality is just way more charismatic.
I made more connections and did way more networking with my drunk personality than I did with my sober personality, how do I make sober me just as charming as drunk me?

I’m looking to start working out for about 4 days a week and want to target every area but I don’t know where to start 😭

For me, it's high volume eating. The kind where influencers show how you can eat close to a kilogram of food in a sitting for 500cals. Or 50-60g protein per meal. That was the bane of my gut's existence.

I've lost about 32kg (70.5lbs) and high volume eating made my life hell in the beginning. I'm not on any meds that curb appetite but I've always been a low-volume eater, it's easier to gain weight like that, yeah, but now that I'm where I want to be, I've been doing some reflection on my dieting methods.

I hopped on the "high volume nutrient dense" bandwagon early on, but I was always bloated, felt uncomfortable, nauseous and struggled to finish the food which made me tired. Eventually I got so sick of it that I started doing low volume nutritionally dense food.

My main goals were protein and fibre (100g and 30g respectively). I bought a fibre supplement online (13g/serving) and I'd add that to my water bottle and sip over the day. That covered my prebiotic fibre. I'd eat 2 fruits a day spaced out (usually apples and/or pears) for insoluble fibre and 1 glass of chia seed water at night so I could wake up and empty promptly. I also replace a portion of my muesli with plain wheat bran for insoluble fibre.

For protein, I'd prep chicken breast in thin slices, marinate and then air-fry low and slow with butter till kind of crispy. I'd have about 150g worth (raw weight) per day in small batches which covered about 35g of protein. Small protein muesli bowls with 75-100g greek yogurt, my fruit (cooked) and 20-30g of the muesli became an almost daily dinner for me, especially when i didn't feel like chia water, I'd just add the chia to the yogurt and make a pudding-type situation. I'd also eat rice toasted in ghee or butter with a portion meat or tofu and high-calorie condiments (in moderation ofc), or a creamy bean and lentil soup. I tried eating a ton of lettuce or broccoli with seasoned meat but I could never eat it and feel good, I'd bloat and get sick so this worked so much better for me. Also stopped eating breakfast bc I really just hate it.

I stopped bloating, stopped feeling nauseous and tired and I felt the energy to work out and actually saw the weight drop. I don't hv anything against high-volume eating but I used to force myself to eat that way thinking I just had to eat large amounts of food to feel satiated when I've always preferred low-volume. I just made a few "half-way" swaps to cut down on calories and I dropped the weight. Even now, I eat low volume and nutrient dense and my gut is just so happy.

I have been incorporating a lot of things in my diet such as herbal soups , buckwheat, caviar and fish (grilled over fried) and I noticed things have been much better for me healthwise , I'm less bloated , loss weight and just feel great. I'm in another country so I don't have many of the luxuries I have back home but it really opened my eyes to health (swimming , walking everywhere , mountain herbs , no shoes in the house,etc) Has anyone incorporated other culture's health customs and certain foods into your life

(TLDR at end) to preface this: I don't care if you think thay they're normal, I've had them since I was 9 on my CHEST not in a cute area like my bum/hips or to show I've been working out etc...I ate my feelings and was chubby, and then lost weight all between 8-12 years old. I also had a growth spurt to 175cm in this time. I even have faint ones on my bum/hips somewhere idek but idc cos they're not in your face visible and they make sense there (photos taken with and without flash)

when I had "large" b00bs (sorry idk if things are censored here or not), having the marks was manageable cos 1 - it looked like the marks were from having a larger chest and 2 - no one is looking at marks when you have big jugs lol...now I'm back being part of the itty bitty titty committees (which I am so fine with especially after getting a lift with no implants/transfer just natural lift)

I am now in my early 30s and my very white marks ruin every top...I can't wear low cut, bikinis are a myth and even trying to find a tankini I have wasted so much time trying to find swimwear to hide and it's not only wasting my time, but I cannot be this age still have these abhorrent abominations on me. I can take the crooked discoloured teeth, the unruly hair and even the fact that I'm below average aesthetically...but my self expression that makes ME feel GREAT is through my style and how I wear things makes me feel confident...no one can say learn to love yourself cos I've tried for 2 decades and I cannot live like this anymore

I haven't been fortunate in the looks department generally, but I've worked hard to feel good about so many things I used to despise. I have wasted my prime years hiding and getting rid of these marks are truly the only thing that will bring me peace in my body. I have suffered for so long, people pointing them out, even my own damn mother (which made me crash out wildly cos it was her fault her own child was comfort eating but we move)

TLDR: I am fed up of my old, white stretch marks that are very visible on my chest and I need a foolproof solution absolute solution to get rid of them, especially as I am dark skinned (just saying laser isn't helpful, what kind of laser etc), I am an experienced tretinoin user on my face but I've heard microneedling and tret might be worth looking into..literally ANY foolproof solutions idc the cost

Finding clothes that fit my body type is so difficult. I'm blessed on the bottom but pretty small on top, as well as being quite tall (5'10''). I love my body but shopping is painful. Does anyone know of clothing brands that work for this body type? I usually wear size small for tops and just go with the oversized look on pants since they never fit right.

Looking for:
Dresses, mini and maxi
Mini skirts/micro shorts
Low waisted bootcut jeans

My measurements:
Bust 35
Waist 26
Hips 42
Inseam 31

I got these awkward tan lines from wearing sandals last summer and I’ve been treating them for almost a year now with nothing working out

Routine is glycolic acid vitamin c serum and tret and they’re still here and won’t go away.what do I do?

So i know that for black women the beauty standard is to have that slim thick look but i cant seem to achieve that I love love loveee the way they look on other ppl but on me it just looks ugly idk if its body dysmorphia or what because no matter how much I look at myself in the mirror all I see is disappointment the way I think is that if I wanna be skinny I have to be skinny everywhere else or if I wanna stay chubby I should be chubby everywhere else so it's a never ending cycle of overthinking but yeah just a little rant I feel safe to rant here because it's a space made for black women so I feel like some ppl might understand me thank you for reading!!

I recently brought some lactic acid for texture and decided I will also use it for exfoliation. Does anyone have experience with this product, I brought it from the ordinary in the 10% strength

Listen, I’ve heard to so many times: “Sexy is mindset!”, “You need to feel comfortable in your skin!”, “Confidence is sexy!”

Let me lay the goods out. I’m East Asian. 28. 1.7m, 55kg. My measurements are, from shoulder to bust, to waist to hips: 36.5-32-26-37. I wear a 32A on a good way and I keep a spare 32B for the three days before my period when my boobs swell for a bit.

I keep hearing about how bigger boobs is a body halo. I wish I had bigger boobs! But I don’t, and I likely never will. Even when I was 5-10kg heavier, I was just a 34B. Nothing ever worked!

Not to mention — my face is incredibly plain. It’s not ugly; I will be very objective and say I could be a 7 on a good day with makeup and lovely outfits, but I’m neither on Jennie nor Gong Li’s level of stunning. They are goddesses, and I respect that. I’m nice-looking, but that’s it.

My features are very balanced (aside from my monolid eyes, which I feel are too small for my face, but also think double eyelid surgery will throw things off). Perfect thirds, which I realised when I learnt anatomical drawings. A normal sized nose, and a normal sized mouth. Nothing stands out. I’m a Libra Rising too, btw.

So I’m just… meh. A Kibbe Dramatic Classic, true and true. Most of my wardrobe are business casual and I do look good in them, but god is it boring! I want to dress flirty! And sexy! But every time I wear something with a low back or front I just think: nah, I don’t have the goods for this, and it’s back to Ann Taylor I go.

I’m so, so envious of y’all ladies with the curvy hourglass figures — you fill out dresses so nicely! And it doesn’t help when someone like RuPaul looks at Hannah Waddingham and goes, “You are a lot of woman!” and I just look down at my (non-existent) tatas and think: “Well, I guess I’m not woman enough!”

But I digress…! I suppose I just need help feeling a little better when I realise I don’t have the hyperfeminine body that health textbooks and Cosmopolitan were talking about, as well as some practical tips!

Backless dress? Saving up for a boob job? Fenugreek supplements? Covering all the mirrors in the house? Upper body workouts?

Thank you! 💗