AITAH if I want to join a DnD night at my own house?
My man wants to hold a DnD night in our garage every other Tuesday, (his dad already comes to visit for dinner every other Tuesday from that.) I have parents too and hardly have them over, apparently its a bigger production with my folks because they bring my 93 year old grandma which my man tries to impress with his cooking like she a guest of honor. Okay fine, that’s sweet, but then we hardly see them. And now he wants to hold a gathering in my garage all summer long on the opposite Tuesdays, without even slightly helping me to ready the garage for company (you can hardly move in it, we hang out in there for summer but winter we use it as storage.) Oh wait, scratch that, he finally put a halloween skeleton back up in the garage attic last week. A little late as I’ve been asking him since last year. He’s also got 3 giant contractor bags full of bottles he wont turn in. And we have 2 giant boxes of cardboard he wont take out on recycle night cuz it drizzled, twice. That makes it at least a month as recycle night is every other week too. So to the point, he’s hosting a DnD night for his AA buddies and I’m not in AA so I don’t get to play. I have a character already for years. And then I see if they are all male so I can at least let my house be messy these nights, have the men pee behind the garage, its covered-like. But then I find out there is at least one girl. So now my monkey-brain also kicks in and now I’m jealous for more than being left out. Not like I don’t trust my husband, just that there is a girl playing, and it ain’t me. What am I supposed to do? Just watch them have fun and attempt not to bend over the wrong direction in the garden and give them full moon? It’s not fair that I’m not included simply because I can handle my alcohol consumption. And he actually told me to ask the internet peanut gallery so here I am. Also, asking, how does this make me selfish simply because he always lets my company come over? (Also I’ve never had more than 2 people over at a time and not at all regularly scheduled) Edit: I do not drink around his company, I drink occasionally on weekends and do not have a need to attend AA. Too little too late: I do not say “well, I can handle my alcohol” around anyone but my man who knows I don’t need AA. And I maybe said it once out loud years ago when we made our arrangements that I can drink occasionally. It used to be not around him at all, now I just ask if it’s a bad craving day beforehand. The arrangement includes dumping whatever’s left at the end of a session so it ain’t in the house. Also sorry for lack of paragraphs, I didnt even think it would be this long. Yes, I am bitter about being left out of a game night of mixed gender at my own house. Yes I am upset about the mess that has a rush date on it now instead of doing garden bed prep. I was going to clean the garage anyway, his lack of help and urgency is definitely a sore spot, the thing about peeing in the back not being an option with a girl around means I have to clean the house on Tuesdays too. No man has ever had a problem peeing in the covered back of the garage. My own dad has used it because it was closer than going inside. I’m not treating anyone like dogs, they would use it if it were only men. Honestly, if youre not a man, don’t have an opinion on it. Peeing outside is easy and no one feels like a POS using it. We literally call it our second bathroom. F off about that particular thing. Also, stop assuming a middle aged woman has 6 friends who are into DnD that ain’t busy being moms and grandmas. Also, most of my friends are in different states or 2-7 hours away.