So I thought what fun to gather the old movies when the kids were young. Legacy box was able to convert about hours worth of video from about 8 years . I just saw those videos last night.
Om my gosh, I was insufferable. What a controlling, fake bitch I was. I don’t know how my in laws even talked to me.
But the worst part was watching the emotional needs of my boys that I didn’t attend to. It’s all
over the film - how the kids worked so hard to please me. And I know I gave lots of love, but I didn’t see it on the videos. I wish I saw the videos right after we made them- maybe I could have changed my parenting style to not be so controlling.
And yes the boys are doing well,went to college , have great jobs, but I’m really worried I set up an interpersonal relationship framework of wanting to please the other partner due to how I parented them ..
I know having three kids is tough especially when ur both partners are working , but I could have done better….