Cosleeping toddler and baby
Looking for advice/reassurance on cosleeping with toddler and newborn.
Toddler has coslept since 4mo but is having a REALLY hard time adjusting to new baby. Part of the issue is that she breastfed until just after 2 yrs and was pretty much exclusively put to sleep by me (due to feeding to sleep). It means my husband has always struggled to get her to sleep/cosleep alone with her as she always wants me during the night.
Now with new baby, she has been waking up when baby stirs at around 3am and insisting on climbing over me to sleep next to baby. Obviously this is not safe and we have to move her (results in her waking up completely having a horrible split night, where she argues about needing to sleep next to her brother). Last night I waited over an hour for her to settle and fall back into a deep sleep which meant I got hardly any sleep at all. It's killing me.
We are trying our best to do 1-1 time in the day, not always rush to the baby and give her attention first, get her involved, reward with 'treats' etc. but last night I really lost it at her and feel awful.
Not sure if there is any advice (please don't suggest husband sleeps with toddler, we've tried so hard to make that happen and she just wants mum nearby at night - we are still trying but it's not an easy solution for us). Has anyone been through similar? Did it get better??