Scared of being disowned….
Salam, this is my first time ever writing on Reddit, but I thought it was time I shared my experience in case others have gone through this too. I’m a 27-year-old female, and I have finally found a brother I genuinely see myself marrying. The issue I’m having is that he’s from a different ethnicity than mine, even though I’m mixed myself.
My mother continues to scream and shout and demands that I make a choice between him and our family. It’s gotten so bad recently that she tried to force me to swear on the Quran that I would leave him. The thing is, she has never even met him. I said to her, “Just meet him, and if you still don’t see him fit for me, then I will consider your opinion,” however, she refuses.
My brother spoken to him before he took my number and was happy with him! Now he said he will disown me if I go against my mother, and I feel so alone and hopeless. I already have a lot on my plate, and yesterday, after nights and days of her screaming at me, I decided I no longer felt safe and left the house. I’ve spoken to sheikhs, and they said to get my uncles involved, yet I’m scared to. I really feel like I’m losing hope. Please give me advice.