u/IndianRedditor88

Looking for advice from women who are married. I am planning to get married probably in 2027. And I want to hear it from women who have lived experience of this.

Some basics are covered

- I cook, clean, and do life admin. Not recruiting a second mom or unpaid house manager.

- I was raised in a “everyone does everything” household, so I know which side of the sponge is for dishes vs counter.

- We’ll have our own place, even if it is rented, because love needs space and privacy, not an audience with commentary.

- Cook + maid booked, because both of us have jobs and I’d rather spend weekends with her than debating whose turn it is to do bartan.

- Big on trust and splitting mental load. “We” problem = “we” solution. I don’t “help” with _her_ chores.

So, married women of Reddit, especially 5+ years into marriage

1. What mundane, unsexy things actually make you feel wanted and supported? Think of it like “he does ABC for me without being asked because he knows I get migraines” . Not expecting a “be kind” response.

2. What do you wish husbands knew before you even said “I do”? The emotional, logistical, or mental-load things no one really knows outside of marriage.

3. What’s one thing your husband does, romantic or boring, that makes you go “Yep, married the right one”?

Obviously I’ll ask my future wife too. But I’d rather show up and be ready than make her run a tutorial for me. The goal is to be ready and understand what wifey will want from me. Not planning on becoming superman from Day 1

I am 34 M, unmarried and slowly on the way to have a comfortable retirement.

I want to buy a non nonsense Term Life Insurance - plain vanilla one - pay premium, if I die prematurely then nominee gets the money. I don't want money back policy and I am mentally ready to treat insurance as an expense I would have. Targetting a payout of around atleast 5 crores. I like adventure related sports like trekking, rappelling and will probably be attempting something like sky diving, based jumping and all in the future. Will I be violating terms of insurance?

Also want to buy a No Nonsense Medicine Insurance Policy - to cover medical check costs. I am healthy and relatively fit now. I have no pre existing medical issues to the best of my knowledge (except Bradycardia and a dislocated shoulder) With all hospitals being bought by PE firms, medicine expenses are going to sky Rocket and need insurance against this. Especially if I get terminal diseases like Cancer later in my life. Does medical insurance take care of instances like this.

Any recommendations on policies with good history of payouts and less procedures. I suspect govt insurers like LIC / NIA will be more cumbersome to deal with, happy to be proven wrong though.