I found her Reddit account
By complete chance I stumbled upon my dBPD sister’s Reddit account. I don’t think I should have but I read some of the history because it pertained to a recent event where she put my family including my small child in danger and because I’m NC I didn’t have much information to go on so I’ve been stressing out trying to assess the situation for my family’s safety.
I don’t want to tell our parents about it because I think it’ll just cause more issues but I did consider it because it was beyond disturbing. Full of lies, full of posts trying to get sympathy (it’s definitely a reminder you can never fully believe what’s people post on Reddit lol), posts where she’s trying to get hexes put on people and just so much flat out delusion that I think borders on psychosis? The last one is the most concerning. I think I didn’t realise just how delusional she is and it’s really shaken me.
At the moment my husband and I don’t see her at all but she has limited contact with my child when they see our parents. I’m feeling extremely concerned that she has any contact with my child at all especially paired with her actions putting my child in danger. It’s been extremely stressful negotiating this with my parents as they don’t see her as the threat I see her as. The truth is they refuse to see it and any evidence I give is DARVO’d. They’re very persistent about getting me to have contact again even though it’s been years. Just a rant because I’m tired, sick, heavily pregnant and know I have to gear up for the fight to protect my kid.
There’s also something that’s been weighing heavily on my mind for a long time concerning TW: sexual abuse. I think my sister may have sexually abused me in a way but I’m constantly unsure and doubting if it counts. Basically when we were in our teens (I’m four years younger) she would regularly find reasons to be naked around me and be unkind/force me to accept it even though I said I was uncomfortable constantly, mostly calling me weird and a prude for being uncomfortable. She did things like made me check her for haemorrhoids and give her spray tans.
She also exposed me to a lot of sexual/adult things like talking about her experiences and she constantly went through my room and took things like my underwear. It was an extremely weird dynamic and has made me very uncomfortable for a long time and of course adds to the feeling that I don’t want my kid anywhere near her but of course I wonder if maybe I am just weird and prudish because sometimes sisters and even female friends are ok to be naked around each other and there was always some excuse for it. I haven’t told my parents as I’m not emotionally ready for them to DARVO that away but yeah. Doesn’t feel good.