I just need to vent, and maybe hear some encouragement from others in a similar situation. My husband (34) and I (30) started our fertility journey December 2025 after not getting pregnant for 2 years of trying off and on. By end of Jan 2026, all our testing was done and I was really relieved that not only did our tests come back good, they came “great” according to docs (very high ovarian reserve, no polyps, open tubes no swelling, normal hormone levels, a strong sample from my husband etc). My cycles have always been regular too, not painful and never varying my more than a few days at most. the only thing after testing that i had to address was low ferritin. We were diagnosed with “unexplained infertility” and I was glad that this was the case personally, as opposed to receiving a diagnosis for something serious.
After about 45 days of taking iron supplements, we were excited to start IUI round 1. I understood what the odds for pregnancy were going into it and that would likely require multiple rounds, so … after IUI #1 in March didn’t result in pregnancy …I wasn’t too beat up about it , and we went straight for round 2. My second IUI was on 4/23, another strong cycle where lining, AMH, etc all looked very good… had one large follicle (24m) at trigger time and another one at 16m. I started cramping on Friday 5/1 and was hopeful it may had been implantation, but alas my period started on Sunday 5/3. I’m now just feeling really anxious.. what if this really never happens for us.
Before my husband and I got married, we openly discussed our goals regarding family - we both knew we wanted children, we also promised each other during our engagement that even if we couldn’t have them for some reason, we’d still have a full life with each other - enjoying travel, supporting each other’s dreams, all that. But now that we’re really trying and it’s not happening, it’s just frustrating and I’m feeling defeated because I see it happening for others and I know that we would provide such an awesome life for little ones. And I just think, what if it’s something that will never happen for us no matter what we do. Not knowing what is preventing it is kind of maddening. I feel so lucky to have my husband because he never makes me feel pressured and he is always supportive - showing up to every ultrasound/bloodwork appointment.. he’s my steady rock, and While I have a great family and good friends I don’t really want to spend time with anyone else other than him right now. this past weekend I bailed on a family event because after my period started I couldn’t pretend to be cheerful, I didn’t want to be asked by some of my much older relatives (who I love dearly and I know mean well) “hey when is that baby coming?“.
I plan to start screening for IUI 3 this week. In the back of my mind anxious and already wondering at what point do we stop trying with the IUIs.. and move onto IVF.. and what if we find out there’s something wrong with my eggs, or my husband’s sperm (like DNA fragmentation) that can’t be identified in any of the tests we’ve already had. I’d love to hear success stories from others that have been through this journey, or any advance for getting through this time without letting anxiety over the future take over . Thank you so much