Is it wrong to be worried about my girlfriend’s girls trip because of the people she’s going with?
My girlfriend is going on a girls trip soon and I’m struggling to tell if I’m overthinking this or if my concerns are valid.
When we first started dating, she went to London with her best friend for Carnival. While there, she was grinding on guys at parties/clubs. She told me about it afterward and I told her honestly that I wasn’t comfortable with it. What bothered me almost more than the actual dancing was her best friend’s reaction. Instead of saying “yeah that wasn’t cool,” her friend said, “Why would you even tell him that?”
That same friend has a history of acting very single even while in relationships. She’s very boy crazy, goes out mostly to meet guys, and has done stuff like let guys kiss her at clubs while saying things like “I’m not telling my boyfriend because it meant nothing.” She also genuinely does not like me at all.
Now my girlfriend is going to stay with her in the UK and they’re also taking a trip to Sardinia with another single friend. My girlfriend will be the only one in a relationship. Every time this friend group goes out, it revolves around guys, partying, flirting, etc.
I know people will say “either you trust your girlfriend or you don’t,” and I get that. But I also think environments and friend groups matter. My fear isn’t just my girlfriend randomly cheating out of nowhere it’s that if boundaries get blurry, her friends will encourage it, minimize it, or frame it as “not a big deal.” Especially because that’s already happened before with the Carnival situation.
Am I being insecure/controlling here, or are these reasonable concerns given the context?