u/Individual-Check6403

Are these standards too high or unrealistic 😭 Since I’ve been seeing a lot of dating posts recently I figured I’d participate lol

I don’t have a bf and honestly don’t want one anytime soon (l9raya awla) but here are some things I’d want in a future partner:

_> kind and respectful

_> has a job or is genuinely working hard toward something

_> financially responsible and able to support himself

_> cleans after himself

_> chores and finances are 50/50

_> emotionally mature

_> knows how to communicate

_> calm and not violent

_> doesn’t lash out with unnecessary violence and borderline violence (pls get the f1 reference 😭)

_> supportive of my goals and ambitions

_> loyal and honest

_> respects boundaries

_>has hobbies/interests

_> has a good sense of humor

_> treats people well in general

_> preferably speaks at least one foreign language (not mandatory lol)

_> taller than me (I’m 164 so I’m not asking for much 😭)

Anyways applications are online only. If you’re older than 164 years old unfortunately you will not be considered 💔 Please also provide:

_> your social security number

_> your bank information

_> your favorite cousin’s name

_> and a 500-word essay on why I should pick you

References are appreciated

I’ve always wondered about violence in Morocco especially toward women in domestic settings. I genuinely can’t comprehend how normalized certain behaviors seem sometimes. Why are so many men raised to be violent, dismissive, aggressive, or emotionally abusive? I know not every man is like this obviously and the problem machi ghir fi bladna and it's rather common in most 3rd world countries but the issue feels way too common to ignore.

I’m not gonna pretend I’m an expert on the topic hit I’m not. A lot of what shaped my view come from personal experiences, stories I’ve heard from friends and family memebers and things I see online and statistics I’ve come across. And honestly I even question whether the statistics reflect reality because I feel like so many women never speak up about what they go through. Maybe I’m wrong but documentation and reporting still seem very limited here compared to the actual number of cases.

What saddens me the most is how casual violence can sometimes feel, we see it online through jokes, memes or comments people make, it’s almost treated as normal for men to resort to intimidation, screaming or even physical violence whenever they’re angry. And when women speak up people often minimize it blame them or tell them things like "ghir sabri 3la wlidatek" , "3adi rah rajel" , "lmra hia li tsbar" ...

I think part of it comes from traditional gender roles where men were expected to carry the financial responsibility while women stayed home took care of the household and often didn’t have access to work or higher education. But even if that was the social dynamic I don’t understand how that could ever justify men resorting to violence or aggression over the slightest conflict instead of communicating like adults. Plus now society and the economy are changing a lot; women study, work, contribute financially and in many cases share the same pressures men face if not more (stereotypes, misogyny...) so shouldn’t mentalities and dynamics evolve too? Where do you think this mentality comes from? Culture? Upbringing? Religion being misinterpreted? Lack of consequences? Frustration or economic pressure? Or something else? And most importantly do you think younger generations in mrorocco are actually changing or are we just becoming better at hiding these problems?

Of course, I’m not saying every moroccan man is violent or that women should avoid Moroccan men at all. That’s not my point I’m asking these questions because i know want to get married someday and share my life with someone (preferably a moroccan) but seeing and hearing certain things genuinely worries me sometimes. I don’t want to go through some of the things women around me have experienced. And yes I know violence exist everywhere and that someone’s nationality doesn’t determine whether they’re a good or bad person. I could just as easily meet an abusive man from another culture or country. But when you grow up constantly hearing stories and seeing certain behaviors normalized or watching women silently endure things they shouldn’t have to endure it naturally makes you question things and wonder how deep the issue really goes