My mum 72, passed on 8 May.
She suffered a haemorrhagic stroke four days prior, with below recorded on first admission. She was transferred to a major trauma hospital were surgery was an option, however she had significantly deteriorated neurologically and the bleed had grown, so surgery was no longer viable.
My dad, sister and I under advice from medical staff opted for palliative as per mum’s DNR requests and lack of quality of life. She was unconscious 4 hours after stroke onset.
Her funeral was last week, and as I slowly re-enter ‘normal’ life, I’m second guessing everything. We watched her die, in a manner we would never let our closest animals suffer. There was nothing peaceful about it, and we questioned everything in her struggle to transition.
I see success stories, but doctors described it as a catastrophic bleed with mass effect.
Please reassure me that there was absolutely no coming back from this with any quality of life or independence?
- Right eye deviation
- Dense L hemiplegia
GCS 13/15
CT demonstrating Large right frontal intraparenchymal hemorrhage measuring 9x5.3x4.3cm (axial x
craniocaudal) with moderate vasogenic edema and causing mild leftward subfalcine herniation.
Moderately effaced right lateral ventricular with intra-ventricular hemorrhage extension. Mildly effaced left
lateral ventricule. Subdural extension (thickened falx) and scattered subarachnoid hemorrhage (bifrontal).