Hi guys, Im in a really odd situation and really need advice.
Me and my boyfriend have been together since the end of December last year. We are long distance and live states away, so our way of being sexual is being on Facetime or sending each other nudes.
In February, I noticed there was a Twitter handle at the bottom of one of “his” nude videos. When I brought it up he said that if it is on Twitter that someone from his past might have posted them. I chose to believe him.
Fast forward to yesterday night, he had sent me a video that wasn’t muted and it was very obviously not his voice. I found the Twitter that matched with the video from February and sent it to him. He tried denying it and avoiding the conversation at first, but after going back and forth after hanging up the first time I asked, he admitted that it was from Twitter and only from that account which still wasn’t him.
He claimed he did it to make me happy, but obviously that’s a breach of trust right ? Especially when if I sent him anything it was always me. He also admitted that he’s done it multiple times and said I still know what his d looks like because he showed me on Facetime before. But it’s not even about the size, it’s the lies and not admitting it when I had asked months before.
He said that he felt weird admitting it so he kept up the lie despite him feeling bad, but if he felt bad I feel like he wouldn’t have continued to do it up until yesterday, especially when I never really asked for nudes it was always him sending them randomly. He also said that if we were together in person it wouldn’t have happened, but distance or not how could that be an excuse to lie about something like that ?
Now looking back at all the stuff he sent me, I realized that a lot of them were not him and I feel dumb for believing him this long. It’s such a huge turn off to find that out, especially when I was looking at these pictures and videos fantasizing about him.
I’m debating breaking up with him, but I’ve never heard of a situation like this, so I don’t know if it’s break up worthy or not. What do you think I should do, or what would you do in my situation ?
TLDR: My bf sent nudes of someone from twitter claiming it was him for months and I don’t know if I should break up with him or not.