I met someone on Bumble (45F met 50M). I am about 14 months post separation, he is the same. My ex cheated, his has mental health issues. We both have teen/pre teen age kids. On paper, we are a disaster.
It's only been 5 weeks. He officially asked me to be his "girlfriend". Now, calm down commenters....haha I do not think I am the exception to the rule. I understand rebounds, I understand healing, I understand love bombing. I am not ignoring red flags. I have dated pretty much since the split, met so many people, had a lot of great experiences, some not so great. My separation was a long time coming, the relationship mourned long before that final affair.
I have never met a person who i can trust like this. I am not getting ahead of myself, but we will take it slow and see what happens. With our lives, we don't get much time, so this will really go at molasses speed. But regardless of what happens, it is nice to feel this. To know that there are good genuine men out there. I know I very well may get my heart broken, but I think it's worth the risk. I do feel like it is soon for me, but I can't control when I met this person. No reward without risk, no learning and growth without challenge. So here goes!