I am so beyond frustrated. Maybe it’s my hormones, maybe I am justified being so upset, it’s just ROUGH.
I’m 14 + 5 today and feel like my work and my OB are not taking me seriously. At first my work was willing to make some accommodations for me upon me asking, and even allowed me 40 hours of unpaid time off additionally because I was calling off so much from my nausea.
I noticed last week that my supervisor was starting to assign me more work, I messaged her saying that I didn’t think I would be able to do the amount of work being asked and would like better communication going forward before assigning more stuff. She then set a meeting with me the following day and told me that I needed a note from my OB before they could continue to accommodate me any further (highlighting what I can and cannot do). She then assigned me my full workload I would have been assigned prior to asking for any accommodations. I left an hour late that day trying to get everything done because my work requires timeliness.
I saw my OB today, which was absolutely no help. He said he couldn’t write me a note outlining what I can and cannot do at my job, only that I stated that I could not perform specific tasks because I guess businesses have tried to sue them over Drs notes before? Also because my blood pressure and weight are fine (Which isn’t my concern). I left in tears. Not to mention in my notes he said that I said I had no nausea of vomiting which IS NOT what I said, I said that it’s gotten better since Thursday.
I’m at my wits end. We have a mortgage and both mine and my husband’s insurance is through my job and he has ADHD and kind of needs his medication to focus at his job.
I just. I feel like everything is just stacked against me and pregnancy laws are absolutely no help since employers can request drs notes from OBs. But unless I’m literally a high risk pregnancy I’m having no help.
For clarification, my issues are with my mental fog and fatigue. My job requires a lot of mental work and remembering policies and processing things correctly or timely otherwise it affects other people outside of what I’m doing. I just feel like I’m at a 40 expected to be at a 100.
And I can do absolutely nothing about it.
Edit: I’m honestly surprised by the all of the tough love I’m getting.
I understand now that asking for less work isn’t really an accommodation, it’s just hard. I genuinely feel like I cannot keep up on everything because I cannot choose to work at my own pace since it’s solely reliant on deadlines. I mostly just wanted to vent because it feels impossible and I feel helpless.
I’m scared because I wasn’t expecting pregnancy to be this hard and I’m terrified of losing my job. I wasn’t expecting to feel like I’m half the person I was before.
I just wished that there were more resources set in place for working pregnant women who are genuinely struggling during pregnancy.
I used to be able to do so much more than what our usual work is and then some without issues, only stress. It’s just hard feeling like no one understands or is taking what I’m saying seriously because my experience is real to me.