Getting mixed Signals from a bartender. Am I reading too much into this?
So this is going to be a long one.
I (29m) have been going to this bar for a few years and there's a bartender (35f) there who's been acting differently and I'm not sure if she's dropping hints, or if I'm just being delusional. I've never put the moves on this girl, and always tip well (at least 25%). Also, I'm fairly friendly with the owner so I'm not entirely sure how much that comes into play. I'm also in a relationship, and she says that she is too, and I don't want to upset my SO, and am basically just wondering if I should address this or not.
I generally go to this place about once a month, and the last two or three times I've visited, there's been a difference in the way I'm treated, vs other customers. The first thing that happened was I went in with my neighbor after not going for a few months, and she made a comment about not seeing me in a while. I didn't really think anything of it at the time, but looking back it's a little odd because up until that point I'd never spoken to her aside from the transactional stuff. I noticed she was sort of hovering around my seat, volunteering information about her personal life, asking me questions about my own, and making comments like "I just want to put a smile on your face." She gave me a free drink at one point, seemingly out of nowhere, and before I left she gave me a bottle of wine. My neighbor is an older lady, and what even put this on my radar is she said something about the way and how often she was looking at me. The last two times I've visited, she's been this way. Overly friendly, hovering nearby, hooking me up with free shit, staring and she's made several comments that I'm not sure how to take, and I'm totally clueless when it comes to women.
Again, I've never tried to hit on this woman, I always tip well, and I'm not single (I met my current gf when she was bartending also, which is why this is even noticeable). My issue is that while I enjoy the attention and friendliness, I'm not down for the drama that's associated with this kind of thing. I'm not sure if this is what I think it is, in which case I'll have to either find a new establishment or find some way to get her to pump the brakes, or if she's just being nice. Help?