u/Individual_Fox_7709

Hi this is my first time posting on here but i really need advice.
I just recently got with this guy I’ve been talking to for a long time. He is one of the most amazing people I’ve ever met. He is so nice and understanding and so so so caring. I have a friend, Kaylee, (fake name) who does not like him at all. I thought she was finally coming around to him but one of my friends recently told me that she was shit talking my boyfriend the other day (i wasn’t present.)
I asked my friend what Kaylee was saying, and she was brought up how he used to say the N word even though he’s not black.
I remember when i heard him say it for the first time and my friend heard it too. Kay told me he says that around his friends and stuff. I confronted him about it and he took accountability. He did use the “i grew up all around it” excuse but he told me he has never referred to a black person with that word and he’s never used it with bad intentions. (I completely understand that even if you say it with no bad intentions, it’s still offensive to many. Not trying to defend him just saying.) After he explained himself i told him that he shouldn’t say it anymore and that i find it weird. He said he would stop saying it and i decided to see for myself. That was a few months ago and i haven’t heard him say it since, even around his friends.
For a while after Kaylee heard him say it, she was onto me. If i even brought up my boyfriends name around her, she would immediately get mad and start saying all this mean stuff about him. I tried explaining to her so many times that i put a stop to it and he didn’t mean any harm but she wouldn’t listen and stayed mad at me. I kept telling her that it was seriously almost impossible for me to break up with him because he treats me well, i adore the relationship we have, and he’s one of the nicest and most understanding guys i have met in a long, LONGGG time. And she knows that.
Like i said, i thought she dropped it but apparently not because she was still talking about him behind my back to my best friend.
I understand if she doesn’t like him, but i feel like this is all going too far. When my best friend told me Kaylee was talking about him, she said she had compared him to my ex, calling them both crazy. Something along the lines of “she’s always getting with these crazy men. He’s just like (exes name)” But the thing is, my ex is an abusive, lying, manipulating, alcoholic, rapist. How do the two even BEGIN to compare????
At this point, in my opinion, this is just straight disrespect to my boyfriend. I told him to stop and he did. He hasn’t done it since. And other than that, his heart really is in the right place. He’s like as woke as me😭 But i still don’t want to seem ignorant or like a boy crazy girl who defends her man over everyone else. What else can i do? Is it wrong if i stay with him?