What should I do??? Kindly assist here am stranded.
How do you genuinely know someone is the right person for you?
I was in a relationship for 5 years with someone who was honestly very loving and caring. He would do almost anything I asked, and emotionally he was always present. But my biggest issue over time became growth, ambition, and focus on the future.
He didn’t have a stable job, and whenever he got money, instead of investing in himself or planning ahead, he would spend it on impressing friends, hiring cars, or pleasing girls and family members.
At some point, I found myself paying most of the bills, and it slowly became something he expected from me. Even transport money became my responsibility, and if I didn’t provide it, he would act out.
Eventually, I chose to walk away because I started realizing I was growing while he remained the same. I’ve worked on myself, improved my life, and become more stable, but even now he still follows me around asking for another chance, claiming he has changed.
It genuinely made me wonder — is love alone enough in a relationship if growth, direction, and mindset are missing? Can people truly change, or do we sometimes fall in love with potential instead of reality?