I’m (21F) questioning my relationship with my gf (20F) because of my jealousy of her past relationships. How can I approach this?
I’ve been dating my gf for two months now, and I feel really comfortable with her. We typically communicate pretty well about how we’re feeling. However, I can’t help but feel insecure when I hear about her previous hookups/relationships, and I don’t know how to deal with this feeling.
For context, she’s my first everything. She’s had several official partners and even more casual sex/hookups. She often brings stories of them up with our friends to I guess relive the funny/awkward moments. At first, I was entertained by some of these stories, but now I’m starting to feel more insecure and jealous. As we started getting more intimate, she would always stop it from progressing after about ten minutes. I feel like I’m doing something wrong, but she assures me that she feels good and just gets overstimulated easily. However, from what I’ve heard about her and her previous relationships, she was pretty freaky in bed, experimenting a lot and having some crazy endeavors. This is a complete 180 from how she is with me, as she’s basically a pillow princess. I’m not sure if it’s because I’m a girl, and all her hookups have been guys. I’ve tried asking her what she likes, but she rarely gives any signals before or during it. She also said that she likes how sex with me feels more “natural,” rather than a scheduled occurrence, which I can understand. What confuses me is that it doesn’t seem like she wants to get intimate at all, ever. She told me that her past hookups were just bad decisions, so I’m not sure why she brings them up so often.
The thing that pushed me to make this post is because she’s home for the summer in another state and told me that she was going to introduce some of our friends to her hometown friend. He’s someone who she has hooked up with multiple times and is still trying to hit on her. Maybe I just have a different mindset, but when I started dating my gf, I basically cut or minimized contact with any ex flings that I was still friends with. I’m not saying that she has to cut them off as well, but I didn’t expect her to go out of her way to see him, especially since I don’t think she plans on introducing any other hometown friend to our friends. I’m also not sure if i’m glad she told me about it or not.
Sorry if this is confusing to read, I tried not to ramble too much but idk if it worked lol. Any advice would be appreciated!