Welp.... This is 3 years in the making...
So I have quite the long story. i posted 3 years ago on here about the very same issue with the very same person. At the time they were having a clear emotional affair that crossed into sexual lines (verbally) and i called her out on it and she defended him consistently and i dont know, eventually she ended it. So i thought...
She has now been in a 6 month affair with this guy. Physical and emotional. No sex to my knowledge but they've done everything else mostly. shes been honest if asked as far as i can tell. at this point we are at the stage where she has decided to stay in the marriage but cant let go of the AP. she cares about him, she probably loves him, hes always been there for me, etc etc etc.
i have pretty much glossed over this but im just curious if anyone else is in the same situation as me currently. How do you cope? How do i believe what she tells me even though every action she does is contratry? they talk everyday. i know they talk, she knows i know they talk, its no secret. its affectionate talk, its not sexual talk im told. im dying on the vine in the meantime, ive lost 40 pounds, im crying everyday, im stressed, depressed, sad, angry, its an unsustainable roller coaster but what the heck do i do? Im at her mercy cause i want the marriage. what consequence do i have to offer if it jeapordizes that goal? you guys will helpful last time 3 years ago, im hoping you are again.. thank you.