Residency + start a family far away from support system?
Hello everyone!
I'm seeking some advice about residency apps and starting a family far away from everyone you know. My husband will be applying to IM or FM residency this fall and he wants my input on where to send his applications.
Our entire support system (both our parents and all our friends) are on the west coast in either Northern California or Reno, Nevada. He was originally thinking of only submitting his applications to residency programs in areas we have family and friends, especially since we're hoping to have a baby in the next few years.
However, it's also been a long-time goal of ours to move to Connecticut. We've visited many times before and really loved it but many factors kept us from moving there throughout our 20s. Then the husband got accepted into a med school in California, so we've been here for three years. It was just never a good time!
Now the question is: Should he apply for residency programs over there? Currently, we're thinking of all the what-ifs. What if he applies and actually matches over there? Would it be realistic for us to start a family across the country? Would it be selfish of us to raise our kids so far from their grandparents, relatives, cousins?
Any insight would be great, especially if you've had similar experiences. Thank you in advance!