Wife doesn't seem to let me be happy?
Im 42, wife is 40. Two kids, 8 and 5. Looking back, she always seemed a bit annoyed if I was spending time and energy on a new hobby when we we're dating,I just brushed it off.
I went back to college as a mature student and she seemed to resent it, even though I feel it was the best and most fulfilling thing I ever done. The night before graduation, she had a massive fight with me resulting in neither of is going to the graduation, myself in such bad mood, going hiking on my own instead.
Same thing happened before triathlon races other events etc, always fighting about something right before I was pumped and happy for an event.
Moving on I was involved in a part-time community paper which I was pretty passionate about, and would always get grief from her about it and "putting in hours for not making any money".
Fast forward to today: Im in a job i love now and sometimes I might have to travel for a couple of weeks, 3 times a year, and there is always a big fight about this, and a big cloud over the few weeks leading up to this, and I always come home to some sort of argument waiting for me. We have a childminder a few days a week, and her and my family helping out with the kids.
She has her own small business and I help out and support her in anyway I can, and conversely I feel that she is negging me all the time. She doesn't have many hobbies beside socialising and as like most marriages, our friends circle has narrowed and merged into one.
It's not about money, (she earns more than me) and I do share equally the load in kids and house work when I am home, but I feel these issues we're there before we had kids.
I feel the common denominator is whenever I get energised and excited and show interest in something that isn't her, she finds a way to cut me down. It's killing our marriage and Im not really sure what to do.
Any advice?