I just found out my boyfriend had a porn addiction
My boyfriend and I have been together for a year this month now, for reference I am 18F and he is 17M, we are only a couple months apart. Last night I had a sudden gut feeling to check his phone and I found out that he had made a secret TikTok account to like girls with nice bodies and what not. I obviously had confronted him about this, it was endless the amount of posts I had seen him like. The latest one was yesterday and he tried to deny it even though that’s what it said on his watch history. Am I in the wrong for crashing out on him as soon as I found out? He was sleeping right beside me so peacefully and I woke him up just to get answers.
While we were talking about it he had said that this was rooted from a porn addiction that he was too embarrassed to tell me about. He told me that at the start of our relationship he had tried to stop and would have stopped for long periods of times but then end up going back to it. I want to help him but I don’t know how, he tried explaining it to me but I just can’t fully wrap my head around the idea of it and I hate it so much, I am trying to treat this as any other addiction but at the same time it is hard to with minimal information. I’ve decided that I want to stay and help him out grow this but how do I know that he’s not lying? How do I know if he actually does have this addiction or not? I think I’m just hurt because he had never told me about it prior especially with our one year coming up but at the same time am I insane for feeling hurt?
I’d also like to add that he says he relapses to this when things get bad in his life, is that true? I would like to hear from past porn addicts to fully understand as he is still embarrassed of saying more.
Advice and criticism would be greatly appreciated! Thank you