Earlier this year I(20f) got to celebrate my birthday on a family cruise, and my mum (mid 40s) told me that she wished she could spend her birthday overseas as well. Well, in march this year I planned a vacation for my mum and I, and we are going to Bali next month to celebrate her birthday!
However… recently one of her friends asked her about our itinerary and has apparently booked the same resort and travel dates for her own vacation. She will also be bringing her daughter (14 or 15 yo) and son (a few years younger) as well.
Her and my mum love to go clubbing so it’s always been part of our itinerary, however now I am afraid that I will be stuck babysitting. My mum has assured me that her friends daughter should be old enough to babysit her brother and that this will not get in the way of our time together. But, I am beginning to feel uncomfortable, mostly because today I found out that another one of their mutual acquaintances has booked her trip for similar dates and in a neighbouring resort…
So what I am planning to do is to schedule a bunch of private tours just for her and me, not with her friends. Would I be an a-hole if I did that? Cause I feel like it is great to have many friends on vacations but I booked this trip specially as a getaway for her and me, even leaving her fiancé out of this (which he was slightly annoyed at, but very understanding).
Also she did not ask her friends to travel with the same itinerary as us, she just provided it as a guide and didn’t expect her friend to book it identically to us. She told me several times that she doesn’t plan to spend all her time with them, instead focusing on us, but that makes me feel even more like an a-hole because this is her bday trip and I really want her to enjoy it.
Anyways I’d really appreciate any and all advice, sorry if the post is a little messy.
Edit: thank you guys for your feedback! I realise I made it sound like I was planning to not consult her at all but that’s definitely not the plan 😂
We’ve been talking about a bunch of things we wanted to do together for a while and I’ve sent her a little guide I made to a bunch of activities earlier today. I do think that we are gonna schedule a few tours with her friends if she wants that, but I have a few places I want to visit with just her only.
Also, thank you for the support on the babysitting matter. I will definitely stand my ground. I think this is what I was mostly afraid of cause I assume the latest friend who jumped on the wagon will also bring her family along…