How can I co-parent with someone who has hurt me so badly and is continuing to hurt me ??!!
(BARE WITH ME THIS STORY IS EVERYWHEREEEEE)!!! okay so me (18W) and him (20M) has known eachother since like 2021 and back then he tried to get with me I rejected him then time went on we get to 2024 then we finally starts messing around secretly because it’s my brothers and cousins close and I mean close friend so boom we messing around then he goes to jail I bond him out that’s when feelings were confessed and then fast forward to January 2026 everything comes out between us then we start dating fast for to February I find out in pregnant whole time it’s twins lmfaoo but before I found out I was pregnant he cheated on me on my birthday he went to his ex boom he came back he apologized we had an intimate conversation I took him back but then as time went on my trust issues were crazyyyyyy like I mean crazy but then we started having lil problems like him
being out every day all day and night and like me finding lil text messages in his phone with girls after he promised he would never do certain shit again but like fast forward to one morning a girl called his phone I answered she say oh well him and his homeboy was trying to link up with me and my friend then me and her gets done talking and then I look through his saved snaps and it’s a video of him grabbing a girl neck wtv he broke up with me that morning then yk I was crying bad and shit he was saying oh it’s not about other girls it’s not about this but as time passes he still comes around me and I figure out that’s exactly what he was doing so as time went on we are getting our
bond back he saying this and that like oh I’m sorry I promise I will do everything in my will to never hurt you again but he did. Mind yall he was staying with me and my family so wvr we broke up, I kicked him out. After a while. He came back and we started back messing with me and then fast-forward to one night. He lied to me and told me he was going back with his homeboy for a night whole time he was going with his other ex to Charlotte. So I had a dream he was with a girl I texted him he was like yes I am then boom I’m like is it the same girl meaning from when we were broken up but he was still fucking me but boom I texted the girl she say he wasn’t with her but she had his lo she told me and I knew exactly where he was at!!! Then boom he came from down there to get his stuff saying oh he’s staying down there
blah blah I’m crying all hard because he’s literally breaking my heart into a million pieces over and over again I keep on forgiving this man and it’s hard to leave this man alone because he’s my first everything literally first everything he keep on making them promises like he would never do this. He never do that again and it’s like he’s showing a little bit of change and turn around and just I don’t know. So whenever he left to go to Charlotte, we wasn’t together but we was fucking we’ve been fucking and I’m like whatever you do is my business we’ve been doing that, but when he came back from Charlotte because he eventually did He didn’t stay down there he came back and he got back into a relationship with me and everything was going good up until we started having problems with him, wanting to be out all night doing his little plays and me asking for time from him OK so when night he promised me he was gonna be back home and I wake up at 6 o’clock in the morning.
He’s not home so I called his phone. I’m tripping. He break up with me because he like I can’t do this. I just wanna be single. I just wanna be myself all right so fast-forward to I guess the next day we talk and he’s like well. I just wanna break right now. I can’t do this right now… I need to work on myself it’s not about other girls. Basically, yeah I still wanna be with you. I just don’t wanna be in a relationship right now. We just need space. I’m like crying breaking down because it’s like you ready to walk away so fast. So fast forward a few days later, he tells me he’s talking to another girl which I had suspicion of, but whatever you know that hurt me. so boom I walk up to where he’s at and we talking for like a lot of that night and then we do something and then he go back home with me right and then we do something again and then I’m like come to the bathroom we go to the bathroom. He got two hickeys on his neck from the girl that I had suspicion of so I go through this phone I see shit we arguing that whole fucking day from eight in the morning to fucking 4 o’clock in the afternoon, I had his phone I wouldn’t give it to him like the argument was so fucking bad like it was bad. We was basically getting a little physical, but we never hit each other. so boom after that we gave each other space until he came over to somewhere I was at He said he wasn’t together, but he told my brother we were together that day but when we went to the room we wasn’t together MIND YALL LITERALLY THE NEXT DAY stupid right but we do something that night and then fast forward to.
We went to the room the hotel room he’s telling me oh I’m sorry and everything YOURE right there will never be another girl like you in my life all this that suck toes put butt in his mouth all of that, it’s like he’s doing everything like we in a relationship and everything like but I didn’t think it was a relationship right I thought we were just working on shit and she was getting better but he was like no you just don’t assume shit so the day after Mother’s Day, which is on a Monday, he said he was going to a kickback. Little dud he know I had his location on Life360 he don’t know that he still don’t know that. I still got his location.
He don’t know that though. so when he get to the place where the supposed kickback was supposed to be, it’s at his exes people house the same ex he cheated on me on my birthday and it’s that house he tryna tell me oh I’m doing some work I’m not at their house he was denying it the whole time untill he just admitted it talking bout some oh I just now got here we ain’t in no relationship so it don’t matter so my bsf call the girl like where tf he at she like he not here so then she talks about me and his unborn twins he don’t wanna believe it but you were literally RIGHT THERE NIGGA like what but hes literally tellling me like kick rocks I don’t want you and everything like I don’t have to be here for you we ain’t together like and all this other shit like idk yall but it’s like he always come back to me but this time I don’t think it’s the case because it’s like I’m fckn tireddd this is just a little bit of what has went on in between us!!! tl;