am i biphobic?
women aren’t objects. (shocking right.) but genuinely, the way a lot of bisexual women talk abt other women sometimes sounds exactly the way men do, and it bothers me so fucking much. there’s this weird mindset where gender roles still exist in their relationships with women, like someone still has to “be the man,” n it leads to the dumbest fucking takes. i’ve genuinely seen a woman say “why would i date a masc woman? if i wanted that i’d just date a man.” which is insane to me because masc women are still women. the comparison itself is so weird. she went on to say having sex with women is also unpleasant bc if she wanted to get fucked w a strap, she’d just get the “real” thing instead… ykw i wont say anything else abt that.
and honestly i’m tired of hearing people act like women are soooo impossible to date or hard to approach. some of y’all will date the most evil men alive. racist, homophobic, misogynistic ass men. but suddenly approaching a woman is where the fear kicks in? be so fr. “women are just sooo scary” while you’re happily approaching a man with 6 felonies.
idk, if you genuinely cannot picture yourself spending your life with a woman, loving her romantically, being intimate with her, building a future with her, then i don’t understand why you insist on forcing the “gay” label onto yourself. attraction to women is not just “i hooked up with a girl before.” sex alone means nothing. there are lesbians who have slept with men and are still lesbians. it’s nothing to have sex, literally loving women or men is not just fucking them. sexual attraction ≠ romantic attraction.
“i don’t like men romantically, just sexually” “ohhh i’m totaaalllyy 99% bisexual but this one maannn, ugh!” “men are just easy! women are sooo hard.”
imo, women are easy asf. do i hate to say it? yes. but we are not hard to please? it’s not hard to get another woman to fuck you? it is not difficult to attract female attention? you literally just don’t try, you don’t approach anyone, you do not speak, you don’t TRY! closed mouths do not get fed, ESPECIALLY when it’s about eating pussy.
and honestly to me, a lot of bisexual women’s attraction to women feels heavily male centered. constantly comparing women to men, talking about women in relation to men, treating relationships with women like some dumbass experiment instead of an actual desire. dude, half the time it feels less about genuine attraction to women and more about validation, attention, or just appealing to men. it’s genuinely annoying. i don’t wanna hear about men constantly. every single time the word “women” is mentioned, MEN WILL FOLLOW. we don’t have to talk about men 24/7! they do not matter that much, i do not care. no one does.
and the amount of bisexual/straight women who have pretended to be lesbians just to fwm is insane. so maybe that’s part of why this irritates me so much. idk some of my opinions i wrote were rage induced (i’m learning to cope with my anger through writing), but tbh this is reddit, i don’t think anyone cares.
oooh and i’m not talking about bisexual men bc idk any fucking bisexual men, i can’t form opinions on anything i have yet to experience. so no, this isn’t internalized misogyny or anything like that, these are my opinions, based on my experiences. i am not saying bisexuals are all the same or that their identities aren’t “valid.” it’s 50/50, just like with literally anything in this world, good/bad. bad majority rules in my experience.
to end this bc i’m going to bed. what had brought this all up was my friend (bisexual) called me “biphobic.” bc i told her that i didn’t want to talk about her boyfriend, since she brought him up while i was talking about something personal. i got upset, i did cuss her out, she cussed me out as well, but my views on this haven’t changed due to that situation. :) lmk.