I need some outside perspective because I feel stuck between two very different priorities.
I recently got accepted into a very competitive international summer program (about 2 months long) (CERN) . It’s a great opportunity and would definitely help my academic/career path.
The problem is my personal situation. I come from a conservative religious background where family plays a big role in decisions. and I also recently got married. The issue is that in my situation, I don’t really have direct communication with my husband yet, so I can’t explain things or make sure we’re on the same page.
I’m worried that going might create misunderstandings or affect the relationship early on, even if my intentions are completely fine. At the same time, I know this is a rare opportunity and I might regret saying no.
Part of me thinks maybe this just isn’t the right timing, and I can focus on building myself and try for similar opportunities later (like during a master’s). Another part of me is afraid I’m letting go of something important out of fear.
So I guess my question is:
Am I being rational by prioritizing stability in my family/marriage right now, or am I making a mistake by turning down a rare opportunity?
Would really appreciate honest opinions, especially from people who’ve been in similar situations.