I (19F turning 20 in a couple months) am on a cruise vacation with my (20F) best friend in Mexico. The legal drinking age is 18 here. The other day we were at a different port in Mexico and I had maybe a drink total. I didn’t tell my boyfriend (21M) until the day after because i know he isn’t fond of drinking and I didn’t want to worry him or feel ashamed of my decision. I’ve never really drank before and I thought it would be a nice time to do so on vacation with my bestie, having a fun drink by the ocean.
I told my boyfriend yesterday and he wasn’t happy. More so because I hid it from him, which I apologized for. He proceeded to say things like “I didn't sign up for a relationship with someone who drinks” and “you knew I didn’t like drinking” and “I find drinking so unattractive and a turn off” I knew he wasn’t fond of drinking and underage drinking, as I also am not fond of the idea of getting drunk or drinking underage. However, I knew when I was legal to drink I would want to try it and I believe he knew this. He told me he is uncomfortable with it and doesn’t want me doing it today. My best friend and I purchased an all inclusive package at a beach club. I kinda wanna get my moneys worth but I don’t want him to be mad. However, I feel like i’m always asking him for permission to do things and my friend says he has me on a leash. I trust myself and I don’t plan on getting drunk at all. Would I be TAH for having another drink? and telling him of course.
I should also mention our relationship is super on edge right now as we are in a hard place not knowing whether or not we are going to continue living together or go long distance.
TLDR: My boyfriend doesn’t want me legally drinking on vacation but I still want to (not to get drunk, just to have a fun drink by the ocean with my friend)
we’ve been dating a little over a year