u/Inevitable-Key-1352

I'm Autistic

My mother, is a very difficult person, I know she has bpd and loves me very much.. but shes on medication and I've been dealing with this shit for my whole existence. My mom never takes no for an answer, everything has to have a reason for her, something """"logical"""" as to why i WOULDN'T do (insert thing). she is incapable of understanding no, typically a quick way to get her to listen is to tell my dad to tell her (divorced with custody), however I'm currently in Peru for a month with her for family stuff.

I told her once I wanted to get rid of blackheads on my nose, but she started putting a two layer cream and oil on my face and I hate it. She pretty much forgets what I want and her justification is that it makes me look pretty, does't hurt, good for pimples and moisturizes my skin; she always does this, my whole life i had to fight to keep my body hair, she calls my clothes old, and buys me things the version of her daughter in her head wants.

I hate justifying having a choice, I know I'm only 16 but I've had near no autonomy in the choices my mother gives me

saying 'I just don't like it' won't be enough for her ever

I need a """logical""" justification to never put cream on again, please I'm so tired

she's using la roche posay vitamin c & vitamin c vichy

Edit: I got it down to a powder for now!