AITAH for snapping at my boyfriend when he interrupted me?
Throwaway account because i don’t want friends/family to see. So, background is my boyfriend is notorious for struggling to make decisions on his own. His family jokes about it, and it’s worsened over time.
To the issue: he was complaining about his feet hurting in his old shoes when we have a trip coming up, so I offered to get him a pair of Hokas as a gift. We go to try them on in person to confirm size and then order the color he likes online. I’m thinking this is easy, but he then tried on 3 different sizes and asked me very detailed questions about how they should fit in the store. Wouldn’t be a problem usually, however I am not a shoe expert and these are questions he could google but insisted on asking me. When I couldn’t answer (and refused to google for him) he got frustrated and snippy with me. Eventually he settles on the best fit and we go home. It was a frustrating shopping experience, but I was literally warned that shopping with him is tough (by his family) so I feel like I can’t complain when I already knew this.
The shoes arrive and he leaves them out for days. Eventually, I say I am going to do a 30 minute workout and he should get them out and start breaking them in before our trip. Literally 15 minutes into my workout he comes out and starts walking around the living room, asking me another set of (incredibly detailed) questions and making me stop to watch him walk around and tell him if the shoes are “moving too much” or if it looks like his toes are a certain length away from the end of the shoe. Obviously something he googled, but decided he couldn’t feel for on his own? My workout is still going, it’s a dance workout so i’m trying to look while still dancing and getting more and more upset. Eventually i just stop it and snap at him that he can google this and I should not have to spend time on my day off answering questions that 1. we have already discussed when we went to try them on in store 2. he can easily google and 3. I am literally in the middle of something I wanted to do. He got really upset with me and said I was acting crazy before walking off. He also really hates when I tell him to google something, because I do this a lot. He defaults to asking me EVERYTHING, and the mental load is too much so I tell him he has a supercomputer in his pocket that can answer him. When I say everything, I mean everything. How long to heat something, how to clean something, etc.
Anyway, I cut off my workout because my mood was just ruined after this. He said me cutting off the workout was “baby energy” (wtf) and is mad now that I am not being a “supportive partner” by refusing to spend 30 minutes staring at his feet and saying if his shoes look like they fit right.
I will admit I was rude when I snapped at him, but I am tired of only being able to workout when he isn’t here. The only time I can have 30-45 minutes straight without being interrupted is if he is in the bathroom or shower. I am upset because I always wait until he is done if he is busy, or ask him if he can pause for a minute before distracting him. AITAH?