Recently Redundant but got a job lined up - Issue with wife
Hi dads, I’m not even sure if this is the right forum, but I just need to express myself as I think I’m going through depression.
I’m a father to a lovely 4yo boy, I was made redundant 2 months ago and got a pretty good payout of about 40k. Since being made redundant I’ve been really focused on job hunting every day and recently secured an equally good job, just waiting 3 more weeks to start as per contracts.
So whilst I’m waiting I’ve been at home upskiling and doing training courses to better myself, I’m doing these whilst my son is in childcare of course.
Anyways tonight, I was just minding my own business and we were both chilling on the lounge, the wife starts checking our bank account and starts questioning my spending.
I told her that one transaction was for my training course, then she starts going off at me. “Don’t you think you’re spending too much?” “You’re not working and you keep spending money”
Now, I have not been splurging on anything, this is a fact, I haven’t bought any clothes or anything for myself for a VERY long time, the only things I spent money on every now and then would be UberEets for food, everything else is usually spent buying my boy toys and stuff, which she does as well.
Then she goes “you’re just deadweight, you’re not working and just spending, you’re useless”.
For context, the $40k i got from my redundancy is still covering way more than what we’ve spent over the past 2 months, it has put us ahead in terms of our savings and we are still ahead.
She works part time and contributes about 20% of our monthly income.
I’m just feeling really disrespected and just disappointed and frustrated. Logically it doesn’t make sense to me either, the $40k i added to our account from my redundancy more than compensated to the time i’ve been off work while she hasn’t been contributing much so to say those things to me is just a load of shit to me.