WIBTAH for trying to sue my father for not taking me on vacation?
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Hi reddit this is my first time writing my story on here
I (19f) and my father (41/42m) never had a stable relationship, we decided to try to build more of a bond when I turned 10 or 12 I don't remember exactly, he never lived with me before me and my mom moved out when I was a baby for her and primarily my safety.
I struggled a lot with money and because I am studying and have some personal stuff I can't work that much and go to college so I don't earn that much money, so the only thing my dad is paying for me is the university costs, I am responsible for the rest of my own costs like rent and groceries. If I need more than I can afford I always ask my mom and she does her best but she also doesn't have much and I don't blame her for that because when I was a kid everything I needed was there.
So we had this agreement between me and my dad that he only needed to pay school every 2 months about €550, this is without the costs of textbooks which I need to buy each block. So it was never in the books for me to go on vacation as a first year student , so when he offered rd to go to the island of our family's origin (which I haven't visited in 5 years) I was super excited to see my grandma and grandpa and some other family members that live there.
So I call him a week later to see when I need to ask for vacation at my after school job (where I work like 1/2 a week) and to announce that the university is going to get written of my bank account, when he picks up the phone he starts talking about how I always ask for money and am irresponsible, I was in shock that he was talking to me like that because I don't ask for much and he owns the company where he works at so money is no problem for him, at the end of the phone call is concluded that im not going on vacation anymore and that I should have never trusted him.
After all the yelling and berating from my dad I decided to call my mom with tears rolling down my eyes and tell her about what happened, she was rightfully upset.
For like 5 days I couldn't close an eye thinking about why he could love me like my half siblings, so I decided to write a letter about how he had hurt me over the years and how I don't feel like I'm getting treated the same as my siblings while I am his first child and need just a little more of financial aid from time to time and I work for most of my money. I also added that this was the last breaking point for me because he always disappointed me ever since I was a little child waiting at the door for my father to pick me up for a "fun day". But I said I was open for rekindling if he took responsibility and gave me an explanation why I'm not worth his time.
I am pretty sure he didn't read it because he again called me names and said he wasn't a millionaire (which I totally understand) but I never mentioned money in the letter.
I know he visits the country every year and takes his other 2 children (5 and 9) everytime in the summer and he travels back in the winter and maybe during carnival season and it just hurts me because I miss my family in the country.
During this time I'm at 6 days no contact till he seeks contact with me directly, but so far he only harassed my mom about something she didn't even fully know I sent out to him.
So today I decided to look at my rights so that I don't have to keep begging him to pay for my school and thought the legal route was the easiest, that way I don't have to have to keep begging and keep on hurting my own feelings.
So reddit would I be the asshole for sueing my father for school and additional living and book costs?
/There are a lot more problems that influenced my no-contact