Broken up so he can get help
So my partner and I have been together for a few years, but have been talking for a while about the potential of breaking up indefinitely so that he could get some help. I was no longer helping and it was unfair to keep us both in the situation, however we still have so much love for eachother and didnt want to separate. There are no hard feelings, no hatred.
I am now in the awkward position where we had a big alcohol-fuelled argument and ended things. In the moment it was fairly nasty on both parts and I was obviously upset, and people around me saw.
We both want things to work in the future, but are very aware that the other person has a lot of work to do on themselves, and we will not allow eachother to be together until they have been through therapy, and are sober. Other people don’t seem to get this, and are so negative about it all, telling me to close that chapter and move on. They seem to think this means we will put our lives on hold for a “what if”. This isn’t the case at all. We just know the only way we would ever be able to work in the future was to take this time apart now.
I’m just looking for some support from people who have been or are in similar situations. It’s so hard having people around who don’t get it, and I feel so isolated and angry. I’ve lost my absolute best friend as a partner, and neither of us want it to end.