Bakit may mga kaibigang ganito?
Problem/Goal:
Pavent lang po. I know this may sound petty because social media is not everything and I don't measure friendship over this BUT if the energy is off, I believe Social media can really tell how people feel about us.
So I have this friend, let call her Bash (or so I think, hopefully mali ako), who are friends with other two girls. I'm not jealous of the other girls and I used to hang out with them too. Things just got so busy so we drifted apart. No bad blood for me to be honest. Ewan ko lang sa kanila. Bash and I remained close and we still talk and hang out. I am also friends with Bash's bff (Joy). Joy is not close with the other two girls. Bash usually tells me about her frustrations towards the other two girls so thats how close we are. So last year nung birthday nya, I greeted her with a heartfelt post and sent her food since nasa work ako. The other two went to surprise her. It's common for them to do that then they ALWAYS post the video on soc med. Anyway, Bash posted the food I gave too but I noticed the story lasted only for less than an hour then she deleted it. The story where the two girls posted her remained till it expired since 24 hrs ang story db? I didnt see it as a big deal. I just noticed since perceptive akong tao but I just ignored it. Then she told me about how she felt bad that day because Joy, her best friend forgot her birthday. I told her maybe she was just busy. Ayoko kasi na lumala yung problema nilang dalawa. Hindi sa kumakampi ako kay Joy ha? And Joy was a better friend than those other two girls.
I just dont want na mag-away sila since theyve been friends for so long so I told her to talk to Joy.
So, my birthday came and there was no greetings from Bash. As in walang paramdam. I went on to celebrate my birthday kasi di naman ako yung tipo na nagchecheck kung sinong bumati. Then the next day, Bash greeted me. Only through messenger. And it wasnt even a warm birthday greetings. It was exactly this. "Hi, happy birthday. So sorry I forgot your birthday. I know how it felt because Joy forgot mine too, Lol."
Doon ako nainis. Okay lang sana na nakalimutan. Okay lang na walang surprise or heartfelt post pero feeling ko kasi pinasa niya sa akin yung frustration nya na hindi siya binati ng bff nya. Naisip ko baka din nainis sa akin kasi nag eexpect na ivalidate ko yung bad feelings nya towards Joy na di siya binati so ginantihan ko pra same daw kami ng feeling but that time gusto ko kso kausapin nya dahil mukhang may tampo dahil sa totoo lng, she's too people pleaser pagdating dun sa two girls while for me and Joy minimal lagi ang effort. Kung gusto nyang mag hangout, kami lagi ang susundo. Yung tipong ganun.
So sabi ko na lang, it's okay. I had fun, i didnt notice who greeted me or not. Pero sa inis ko nirepost ko lahat ng nag-greet sa akin with thank you. Hindi ako nainis dahil nakalimutan nya ha. Nainis ako dhil pinaalala nya pa. Wrong move 😅 Kasi nag-message siya na patama ko raw ba yon sa kanya. Sabi ko no, i just want to be grateful s mga bumati s akin. Tpos sbi nya she felt bad daw, babati naman daw talaga siya etc. tpos sinabi ko talaga na yung way ng pag-greet niya, she made me feel na ginantihan nya ko dahil di siya binati ni Joy. Syempre dineny, di raw siya ganoong tao but yung mga repost ko made her feel bad daw lalo kasi nakalimutan nya yung birthday ko e nag-alarm naman daw siya talaga kaso nung chineck nya, nakalipas na. Sbi ko, if you want to greet, you can just do it now. Whats wrong with greeting and posting if you really want to do it. You dont have to compare or confront me. Tapos iyon, nagpost pero nakita ko, naka closed friends 🤣🤣 So last week birthday niya, di ako nag-online. Di ko rin binati. Kunwari nakalimutan ko. Then lately ko lang narealize, kapag hang out nya with the other two girls, laging nakapost. While kapag kami ni Joy, hindi. Then this made me think about her feelings toward me. It was years ago. The same day of my baby reveal, she also announced her pregnancy online. As in, the same day though kaming mga close friend niya alam na. She posted it lang online when I gave birth.
Weird. Now, I dont know what to tell her if she ask bakit di ko siya binati nung birthday niya. Sabhin ko ba nakalimutan ko? 😄 Sabhin ko na lang din wag na akong batiin sa birthday ko.