My fiancé is an addict
I am 26 (F) and my fiancé is 26 (M). We have been together for over 8 years and I know he has always struggled with substances. Last year he lost a couple people really close to him and that triggered his addiction. He is not drinking during the weekdays nor at work (thankfully), but lately I’ve noticed during the weekends it turns to a full bender.
I want to be supportive especially as he grieves, but I’m really worried about him and I don’t want this to spiral into something he can’t come back from. He is an amazing man and I love him so much! It’s hard to see him go through this when I know who he is. I know at the end of the day it is him that needs to make the decision to stop and there is really nothing I can say to make a difference. We do live together and I rarely drink, I am planning to completely stop to try to encourage him to do the same.
Really just looking for advice on how to navigate this without making him feel insignificant and flawed. The last thing I want to do is pile more things on him when he’s already going through so much, and I feel like I already am. Anyone who has gone through this or is going through this, I would love some input.