u/Inevitable-Sun-4354

Non avoidants feel alive when they connect with their partner, how do avoidants get the alive feeling of being in a relationship if they fear intimacy?

You know those married couples that live down the road and everyone thinks that they're just together because they don't want to be alone and there's no spark between them. Is that what they look like?

TLDR; because I pointed out his patterns in great detail before I left, my greatest fear is that he will acknowledge it, work on it, and someone else will get the version of him I once knew.That is my core fear about this.

He is a good person and whilst he did deflect and deny when I pointed these things out my fear is that he will evolve and I won't get to experience even a semi healed version of him and someone else will.

Even though my logical brain tells me the patterns will most likely carry on, I know who he is capable of being and someone else getting that makes me sad.