My [36M] Wife [35F] drifting apart. How can I fix it with out filing for divorce?
So we have been married for 10 years together for 14 years, 2 kids later 9 and 4. We had some rough patches in the past but we worked it out and moved on. This time it is different, every weekend when our work schedules line up to be together she will have a migraine to a point where we can do anything together, we can't go out or anything.
This weekend there was a couples evening in our town and thought that it would be fun for a Friday night out, she decided then no she would rather have a girls night out on Saturday. Now don't get me wrong I do not mind a girls night out but picking that over a date night is just not right.
I give her all the attention she needs, I do my part in the house even though I have long working hours I will always bring my part. It feels like the more I try to get the spark back the more we drift apart. And yes we did talk about this so many times then for a month or two it will go great and then back to normal.
I don't even think she loves me any more, it is just a case of we have kids together so we stay together, when she gets an urge for intimacy and only then there will be some action but more in the line of lets get this done so that she can be on her phone again.
I cannot see this going on for another year like this, I really don't want my kids to grow up in a split household. And I always believed in fixing the problem and moving on, but fixing the same thing over and over just for your partner to smash it, is it still worth it?