Having a hard time with some friends from work and I don’t know what the best course of action is.
I’ve been in this job now for 2 years and all the girls were already working there when I joined. We all ended up in a friend group of about 9 people and would go out often, they’d call me and text me about hangouts and made me really feel solid in the team.
I noticed last year that a few of the girls would go out together and I wouldn’t know about it but I chalked it up to them all living close to each other and me being a bit further away. (By further away I mean an extra like 10/15 min drive).
This started becoming more frequent to the point where when I’d be invited to things (id be invited whilst we were all on shift and they were talking about the plans) the girls would have their own inside jokes and stories about the last time they went somewhere and I started to feel really left out.
This escalated late last year when I invited everyone to go out for my birthday and nobody made it clear to me they weren’t coming so I ended up being messaged by one of the girls saying there’d only be her and one other person there.
As a result, I started acknowledging that none of them really talk to me outside of work, the posts we’d send to each other outside of work stopped coming, and all our communication is when I’m on shift.
I handed in my 4 week notice about 3 weeks ago so I only have a week left of my notice period and a handful of the girls have asked me if I plan on doing anything. I made it clear that I was a bit hesitant because of what happened last year at my birthday but they were pretty insistent on me arranging something so they can see me off.
A few days ago I made a group chat outlining what I thought we should do and when and added a poll so people could vote for the days/ times that suited them. After 2 days, only one girl has responded because she goes on holiday that weekend. The other girls have seen it and ignored it and I won’t see any of them at work until the day before this supposed meet up for my leaving do.
I’m torn between persevering because it’d be my last day and despite anything I do have some nice memories with them, or just deleting the group chat and wait my next few days out so I don’t have to talk to them again.
I get mixed signals from them all the time and they convinced me enough to plan something and now won’t show up. I don’t know what to do for the best because I do want to leave my job on a nice note.
(Context: I’m moving for uni and if there’s a chance I come home after, getting this job back would be ideal because of pay and location).
Can anyone who has been in a similar situation or been witness to one help me out?