My boyfriend 18M thinks that I 20F just need satisfaction
My boyfriend and I have been having problems because I feel like he don't love me anymore . Before, when I cried or got emotional, he reacted very gently and cared a lot. Now he acts much colder, like my feelings don’t affect him anymore, and sometimes it makes me feel like he doesn’t love me the same way.
Today we had a big argument, and he explained why he changed. He said that he feels like I secretly like seeing him sad or emotional because it makes me feel reassured that he still loves me. He brought up a situation from the past when we had a terrible fight and he left for his hometown. While he was going there, I kept asking him if he was sad. Today he told me that in that moment, he felt like I wanted emotional satisfaction from knowing he was hurting because of me.
I tried to explain that it’s not that I enjoy his pain. It’s just that when I see he’s emotional because of our relationship, it reminds me that he still cares deeply about me. But because of this misunderstanding, now he hides his emotions completely. He says that even when he feels hurt or sad, he doesn’t want to show it to me anymore because he thinks it will only “satisfy” me.
And honestly, now I feel lost because it seems like he emotionally closed himself off from me. So what do you think I should do?