Tell me what you think
My ”boyfriend“ (I use that term loosely, very), told me that he has recently cheated on me after we had a bad argument. He claims to have cheated on me because we kept arguing too much. He his this fact from me for about a week. He hid his cheating from me even when he heard I got a UTI. You would think that’s the perfect opening to tell me. Thats normally a sign a man is cheating. Especially when he’s the only man you’ve been with for over a year. And your body knows his dna like it knows its own. So whatever, he told me after being forced into telling me. He lets me know he had s*x with his babymom. I break up with him. I’m hurt. I’m devastated. This guy tells me that he only wants me and that he loves me and he’ll even do things to give me security. For example he said he’d give me his iCloud. So I could see every all of his texts that come through. But he flaked on that idea because he said having his icloud would be a lot more than just text messages. I chose to be understanding even tho I strongly feel like I shouldnt be looking for silver linings and trying to be understanding. But whatever I said fine, he finds a way to get his phone to send me all of the messages she sends to him but none of the ones he Sends to her. So again, he’s now asking me to trust that he will send screenshots of their every conversation so I can see what’s being said. Mind you this guy has deleted his entire thread With her. Multiple times. He wipes his phone clean of their messages and even deletes some of the things he says and leaves what she says. And I’m supposed to believe and trust that he won’t delete anything. ha! This guy breaches trust and immediately asks for it. So long Story short, now that ive taken this guy back, he has advised me that I should not be mean to him. One min I’m fine and then the next min I switch up on him again. He says in the times that I switch up on him, I’m mean to him. And he has advised to me that instead of being mean to him I should tell him I need space. And he isn’t going to just take me being mean to him and put up with it. he expects me to care about his mental health in this “healing” process. Mind you this guy said I’ll do what it takes. I know I have a lot of making up to do. But in the same breath this guy is saying im going to match your energy. As an example if im stand offish he will be too. I told him that, that will not make me wanna be in love w him again. You are a man, act like it. I am a physical touch person and quality time. The quickest way for me not to wanna be with you is to give me space to be in my own head and think. And not touch me. Give me the time to learn that I don’t really wanna be with you or need you. So tell me if I am trippin. Mind you this news was broken to me less than a week ago. Should I be sparing his feelings? I feel like if I’m holding all of my emotions In and sparing him, he’s gotten away with cheating on me. In a way he’s got his cake and was able to eat it too. Lmk. Sorry for how long it is.