AITA for being upset that my boyfriend prioritizes Discord over me?
My boyfriend (20 M) and I (20 F) have been living together for a few months, but recently he got sent to Arkansas for a month for work. Before he left, he became super invested in Discord and his online server. I game too, and I’m actually in the same server, so I can literally see him actively talking to everyone else all day long while ignoring my texts.
What really upset me is that the days leading up to him leaving, we were supposed to be spending quality time together before being apart for a month, but he spent basically the entire time on Discord. It felt like I was competing with an online server for attention right before he left.
The thing is, he DOES call me throughout the day, so it’s not like we never talk, but when it comes to texting me back, responding to something emotional, or even sending a thoughtful message once in a while, suddenly it’s “hard.” He says that “as a man” it’s difficult for him to text thoughtfully or reassure me when I’m insecure about something.
The distance has already been hard on us, and we’ve been arguing constantly because of this. From my perspective, if he has the energy to sit in Discord chatting with other people all day, he has the energy to send me a quick text or at least acknowledge my messages. I’m not asking for paragraphs every hour — I just want to feel prioritized sometimes.
He acts like sending thoughtful texts is the hardest thing in the world, and honestly I think he’s being kind of a dick about it and it drives me insane.
What should I do?
AITA?